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writes:A Friend of mine has introduced me to a chap very gently, then they kind of tried to set me up so he'd have time to chat me up. I was supposed to meet her at a cetain place and a certain hour, and he happened to be there while she was gone! she did NOT reply to my calls although she has two mobiles...anyhow, I like the guy for now...the thing is however, I don't want to be too easy for him to get to know,..a bit of suspense helps keep him hooked- it's psychology at the same time I don't want him to think I am not interested...he's quite straightforward guy as I could tell he wasn't beating about the bush and in fact was a bit frank, I am frank but from all previous experiences I have been told, read, and started to believe that it's good to play hard to get to an extent.Question is how do I go on doing it? Two, when asked whether I like him or not, how should I answer that without sounding too keen or desperate...although I am since he's a real hunk!thanks for your replies and time in advance peace x 3 Reply to this Question
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reader, Tula +, writes (29 November 2013):
Tula is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks So very Confused
my sister's lent me the book a while back, I'm a big fan
it's just that I was wondering what to tell me friend if she tries to ask me whether I like him or something like that, she has tried to test the waters today and I told her he sounded interested and friendly...and that's enough for a beginners, wink, wink
thanks again X
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (27 November 2013):
 It's very hard to play hard to get when you like someone and are available and willing and wanting something with them.
I would not advise you to play any games at all.
Rather be yourself... but live your life to the best of your ability and do not make compromises or break plans to see him.
there is a great book out there called "why men love bitches"
it's not about how to be a bitch so much but rather about HOW to remain true to yourself.
IF you go out with the girls on Fridays.. DO NOT change that no matter how much he asks
NEVER be free without 48-72 hours advance notice...
IN OTHER WORDS plan your life and live your life... and he will have to make advance plans to be with you.
don't be coy and don't play games and don't ever deny how you feel... if he asks tell him... but BE BUSY... HAVE A LIFE...that's what is interesting to men.. independent women who have a life without them....
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reader, Tula +, writes (26 November 2013):
Tula is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks anon, that's exactly what I was trying to ask about, no being too available. Thanks again for your valuable tips and time x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2013): I don't think playing hard to get is exactly the way to indicate to a guy that you're interested in him.... play too hard to get and the guy could assume that it means that you're not really interseted and looks elsewhereBut I know what you mean - you don't want to look easy or too available. And that is a mistake that many women make.The main thing is not to put out quickly (and that includes heavy petting)Don't send him saucy pics or suggestive emails/textsDon't be availabe to spend time with him at the drop of hat - if he calls you late in the evening and expects you to meet him then and there (rather than making plans in advance) you should decline politely.If he texts you or you miss a call from him don't feel compelled to reply to him immediately. Waiting a few hours won't hurt unless he's asked a question which requires a prompt response. You can always apologise for a late reply saying you were busy or at work. (This shows that you have a life.) You should reply to commincations within 24 hours though - dropping off the radar for days at a time will just give a guy the impression that you're not interested in him.Let him take you out on dates. I'm not saying that he should pay for everything (I'm a firm believer in going dutch) but don't fall into a pattern of hanging out at each others places instead of going out. Save snuggly nights in for when you have a more established relationship.If you've already got plans when he asks you out for a date - be honest and say so - don't cancel things for him. But do make yourself available for dates - if you play hard to get by being vague about plans, constantly cancelling or (worse) standing him up - he will probaly assume that you're not interested.Don't introduce to him to your friends and family to soon (although it sounds like he knows some of your friends anyway). Don't get too "couply" too quickly by doing things like inviting him to partner you at your works Christmas Party or attend a wedding. Keep your social life with your friends separate for now.Don't talk about your problems with him and don't talk about ex partners (yours or his. Be chatty and open but don't reaveal too much about yourself all in one go.That's about all I can think of. As I said - it's more about not being too available rather than being hard to get.Good Luck!
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