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writes:Hi, I need some help (especially from any guys here!) about how to seduce my bf. We've been together for 4yrs. He usually initiates sex, always in the bedroom, and I'd like to make a change. He used to take me to the bedroom at least once a day, but now it hardly ever happens. He doesn't respond to sexy texts and when I dressed up in stockings+heels one night to surprise him he said I made him feel he was using a hooker!!! So now we make love about once a month, and only when he initiates things. Sometimes it's nice to kiss/cuddle only, sometimes it's good to have a genuine early night for some sleep, but sometimes a girl has needs! So how could I seduce him? I'm tired of it always being when he initiates things and tired of him not responding when I try to make advances. I love him, and everything else in our relationships is great, but I'm starting to feel rejected by him and worry this will affect things. Any advice please?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the replies - I guess I want things to happen naturally, without the need for a big 'show', so your tips are useful, thanks. I'm weary of talking about it 'cos I don't want to seem too needy or like I'm pressurising him-but what/when would be the best way to approach that kind of conversation? I'm not the only girl in this situation, right? Thanks again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009): I was going to answer in one way, but Denny's response is better that what I was going to say. He's right -- something else is going on.
My suggestion was going to be to tease. Wear one of your everyday shirts that's a bit low cut and loose, no bra, and let him peek while you're bending over to empty the dishwasher or dusting the furniture. Let your bathrobe accidently gape. My wife doesn't do that stuff to tease, but I could take her right there when it happens.
Good luck!
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reader, PeanutButter  +, writes (1 April 2009):
 I think you need to talk to him - you need to know what makes him tick and see if there is anything that would spice up your sex life that wont offend him of make him feel dirty - some men dont like certain things, some like everything, the only way that you will know for sure is to speak to him - which you should do before it becomes a huge emotional strain on the both of you.
good luck
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