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30-35,
*upcakefrosting28
writes:I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now. We've had some discussions about our friends of the opposite sex and how sometimes they make us uncomfortable. He told me this about one of my best guy friends, so I nicely told him to back off a little because it was making my bf feel weird. He understood. He still texts me but I never text in front of my bf. He sometimes likes things on fb but that's about it. As for his female friend..He told me a while ago that they haven't seen each other in 2 years and are strictly facebook "pen pals". I was fine with it and never really had a problem. Until recently he lied and told me they text all the time and have a huge private message going on fb too. This bothered me because he lied about it. It's fine if they talk I just wish he would have been honest.So now I can't stop obsessing about this girl. Every time I go to his fb or see a status she is the first one to like and comment. I don't even bother liking/commenting anymore because I just feel like she is taking over. I've brought her up before and we "solved" it. He doesn't still know it's a problem. So with out starting a fight and making him get sick of me, how do I bring it up that she needs to back off? Also we are all in our early 20's and she has a bf and a kid. And even knowing she has a bf and a kid, it still makes me uncomfortable that she is all over his facebook and texts him all the time. ~sorry if this was really long~
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reader, CMMP +, writes (19 February 2013):
The only problem I see here is your insecurities and talking with guys behind his back. He's got nothing to hide so he's not hiding it.
Mandy suggests playing games which I don't recommend.
The right thing to do here is to accept it or leave him, because you have the right to expect whatever you want from your man, but you don't need to try changing him to be what you expect. You just need to find someone who's right for you from the beginning.
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (19 February 2013):
 Ummm... lol this is really pathetic to be honest
If I were in a relationship and I trusted my girlfriend, I would not have an issue with her having a guy friend or 50.
I am going to ask you a very simple question.
Are you going to cheat on him?
Is he going to cheat on you?
If not, then drop it.
If so, then leave.
Don't date a cheater, and don't be a jealous putz.
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (19 February 2013):
 HI
I would talk to your male friends more and see how it makes him feel, if he brings it up tell him thats how you feel talking with that girl all the time. He can't expect you to back off from your male freinds if he is being close to a female friend like that. And if you keep winding yourself up with concern over this it will only end in tears anyway.
Mandy x
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