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writes:Hi, i know your probably going to say i shouldnt be having sex but i am.Well (clearly) im sexually active with my boyfriend.His had sex before but i havnt, he was my first.we have only had sex a total of 6times.Each time he doesnt really please me, he does for a few seconds then he gets uncomftable and moves.I have the depo needle so i cant get pregnant and we use protection because i prefer it that way.His able to pleasure me more with his hands then he does during sex.Is there a way to make it more enjoyable?or will it just become more enjoyable? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2010): 3 tips:
Work up to penetration slooooowly.
Try with you on top.
There's no reason for him or you to stop using hands!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe cant stay ontop for like very long because it gets uncomftable for him. He shifts positions alot.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (20 December 2010):
 You guessed right, you should not be having sex at all.
I commend you though for at least having properly arranged for protection from accidental pregnancies and STDs.
Your sexual unresponsivity might very well be a sign that you weren't /aren't psychologically and emotionally ready for sex. Our mind is smart and plays tricks on us and convinces us rationally about things. But our body is smarter and has an ancient, instinctive , primal wisdom which is expressed physically.
Maybe by denying you pleasure during intercourse it's tryng to say " I want to go slower and gradually. I feel that I should not be doing this . I wanted closeness and intimacy, but not in this way yet ".
Anyway , in generic answer to your question , ... practice makes perfect. And communication is the key. What do you mean by " he gets uncomfortable and moves "?- Does he shift position, does he up and go out of the room ?...
You need to talk to him and ask him what he is uncomfortable about. This is something you should explore together, not guess on your own.
But again, you could not be as mature for sex as you think you are.
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