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writes:So I'm nearly 16, and a few days ago, I got my first boyfriend! My bf has never had a girlfriend either (he's the same age as me) so we're both new to the whole relationship thing :POkay, basically, we're both really shy. So far, we haven't hugged, held hands or kissed, etc.At school we stand together but I really want to try and hug him before we hold hands and kiss and things.But I'm nervous because I don't think he'll be the one to make the first move.. How can I get a hug off him without it being awkward or maybe embarrassing him?I want to make him feel comfortable hugging me before we try holding hands you see :PWhat should I do?! :) xx
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reader, _jasz +, writes (28 June 2011):
_jasz is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for helping guys! This was kinda the only reason I signed up but I will probably use this site more often :DYou've all been really helpful and I think I'll try and hold his hand first :PThanks so much for helping I really appreciate it! :) xx
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reader, Duckyhelp +, writes (28 June 2011):
 Holding hands is a much easier way to start. Just walking somewhere nice, like the park and has a happy vibe. If his hand is hanging down next to him, it usually will mean he wants to hold your hand and is waiting for a first move.Holding his hand will create the first amount of closeness which you are hoping for and will lead on to new amounts of closeness. Good Luck im sure you will have a great summer! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2011): I think this is lovely :)
First of all just take it slow, relationships tend to last longer if you take it slowly so thats not a bad thing.
You could start by sitting real close to him, like right up beside him so your shoulders are touching, then on occassion, touch his arm, each time you do make your arm rest on his a little longer. This can be done over time and gradually you both start to feel comfortable with physical contact.
Another thing you could do is when you meet up and you're alone just the two you and you first see him just go for it and give him a hug, and when you're leaving do the same, so that can work the hug thing into your relationship. This kissing and everything else can come later once your both comfortable giving eachother hugs.
Finally don't worry, it'll come naturally after awhile.
Good Luck.x
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reader, sammy1986 +, writes (27 June 2011):
i think the holding hands thing is always easier than hugging when you are alone or walking somewhere walk close by his side and grab his hand gently and hold it look at him and smile works everytime plus this will put him at ease and help get over your shyness good luck
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