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writes:hi.I have been going out with my girlfriend for 6 months and everything is unreal and perfect. we love eachother very much, except she has trust issues. For some reason i lied to her about having a cold sore because i was scared of her reaction i then realsied i had to tell her the other week and told her, she thinks that i cheated on her even though i told her before i had an outbreak, what do i say to her when i would never touch another girl as i love her deeply Reply to this Question
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reader, FluffyPie  +, writes (23 July 2010):
 Uh, why did you tell her you have a cold? You know, girls tend to be extremely insecure, especially if your romantic background is unbalanced, so I know it doesn't sound fair, but wouldn't have been OK *not* to tell her that you lied? I mean, I know that a lie can easily wear down a relationship, but if she bit it, move further and make sure next time you tell the truth.
On the other hand, it is said that once you start with an insignificant lie, you'll get used to it and you'll end up taking refuge in lying. Sounds pretty sad, but let's hope it's not your case. Now all you have to do is find a good, reasonable explanation to gain her trust again. Or simply just show her this article (or make sure she sees it) :)
Good luck!
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reader, Peterk5699  +, writes (23 July 2010):
 Although cold sores are generally associated with herpes, it's not necessarily true that you have kissed another girl.
Girls do tend to be jealous at the best of times so, although it'll be hard, you want to sit down with her a discuss things. Tell her you love her and wouldn't do such a thing (I'm sure you look down on guys who do these things). Sadly it may take some time and patience for her trust to grow again but it will happen.
Also, if you have access to a printer, try and do some research on herpes and cold sores and show her that you can have an outbreak simply through parental genes.
Good luck
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