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writes: dear agony aunts,Ever since I first met this guy I thought that he may actually like me. He'd walk me home, help me out with homework, always start a conversation with me, always want to be around me, smile or wave whenever he sees me, want to sit with me in class (we're both in university so it's really hard to find and sit next to someone in our huge lecture halls) and always try to make conversation with me especially because I'm a bit quiet. Sometimes when we're sitting together, even though there's tons of space, he'd move close to me and rest his knee on mine and keep it there. Or the same thing with his arm or shoulder. I really like the guy. He's smart, ambitious, hilarious, friendly, kind, ... and more. I thought we could've been amazing friends or even something else a bit further than that. However, sometimes he'll just completely ignore my messages. It's been getting worse lately where he just won't reply at all. However, every once in awhile he'll start a new conversation and talk to me but then he'll say he'll brb and disappear and not come back. When I see him, he's his usual self and he'll talk to me and make conversation and ask about me and tell me how his weekend was (he's always busy with interviews for med school, and labwork and conferences) and show me pictures of where he went etc. Sometimes I'll send him a message to see how he's doing and he wont even reply at all but I'll see him online on facebook or something. At times I get this vibe that he's ignoring or avoiding me all of a sudden and I decide to just give it a rest and stop talking to him. This is usually after days of not hearing anything from him. Then all of a sudden, out of the blue, he'll message me and make conversation with me. We'll talk for hours and then he'll disappear again without saying bye. Also, sometimes he'll ask me to come sit next to him but then he'll be playing games on his phone or texting one of his guy friends the entire time during class.I know this sounds lame but I looked it up on google and apparently there's some correlation with scorpios being difficult like that and what I've been experiencing ^^". Yes he is a scorpio. I don't know, any thoughts on that?I just don't understand what's wrong with this whole warm and cold treatment he's giving me. At times I feel like I might've offended him or done something wrong because he completely ignores me when I try to talk to him. Then all of a sudden, he'll be warm towards me and make random conversation. He likes to make this excuse every week of asking me if I'm done the assignment. However, he never asks for help. It's literally him helping me the entire time. He's much older than me. I'm 18 and he's 24 and I feel like maybe he just sees me as an annoying little kid now that he doesn't have time for.. Does he like me at all even as a friend or is his behaviour indicating otherwise?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2012): ^^" ah it's true.. I tend to really over think things especially when it comes to guys.. Thank you SO much for the help. I tried initiating a conversation with him for once instead of torturing myself to wait for him to talk and he was friendly, joking around, giving my advice, as always and we talked for a couple hours. he remembered to say goodbye this time instead of disappearing actually which is a first in quite awhile.. so thank you
I was wondering if you have any advice for how to ask someone you like to hang out, go for coffee, anything outside of school? I would really really really appreciate it :)
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