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writes:i have beem with my boyfriend for 1 year and 8 months now and when we have good times like when he isnt in a bad mood, the times are good, however when we agrue its bad and it seems to be more recently when ever i see him its good when i dont so like if we are on the fone or something then it bad. he doesnt let me go to partys, see my friends, text anyone else, he has to see what i am wearing before i go out, he always shouts at me... he is so stubborn it is not evevn healthy. but the thing is im pretty sure that i love him. and i want to finish it with him but i no that he really loves me and i dont want to break his heart. or hurt him in anyways. so i kinda need to know what to say to break it off with him or when to do it cus i am completely stuck!!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 March 2010):
 It is never easy to breakup and he is sure to feel hurt one way or another.
The most often used excuse is ,'We are not compatible with each other.' We have different needs .
Or ,"You deserve a better girl than me."
It is a fact and there is no criticism of him . You need to be gentle , honest, calm and be firm.
How to present it to him?
If you think your b/f will throw a fit, you could text him or call him but preferably to talk to him in person.
Pick a place to talk that feels comfortable for both of you; perhaps a semi-public area such as a corner table in a coffee shop or a park bench.
That way you can talk privately, but be able to leave when your conversation ends.
Look him in the eye and speak honestly and calmly.Be gentle but firm and don't give up your position.
Don't blame yourself for the breakup or feel guilty about it.You have got a job to do
Good luck to you .
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reader, krissichavous  +, writes (18 March 2010):
 just imagine yourself without him right now. Pretend he has somebody else in his arms, and he's forgotten about you. Does it hurt? Then don't break up with him, because that's a chance your willing to take, and it will hurt worse than what you feel right now since you still have him. Just because you guys are fussing, doesnt mean you cant stop it. I know that his yelling affects you, but its mostly because hes scared to lose you. Get alone with him, have a grown-up conversation with him and tell him some things you haven't told him that you need to get off your chest, let him come clean about some things also. Dont yell, be gentle with him. Tell him that you want a relationship with him, and if he wants one with you that he's going to need to trust what you do, and slack off of what he is doing right now, as in reading your text messages because even though yall are together, you still have some of your privacy that doesnt need to be invaded. Show him your trustworthy, and that even if you wear the shortest dress when you go out, all your doing is thinking of him. But if you don't think its going to work out this way, first try it, and if nothing happens maybe give you guys a break and see how things end up, maybe you guys aren't the perfect couple after all.
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