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30-35,
*lydiese
writes:Hi everyone, I've been online dating for about 8 months now, have only met up with 3 people in that time and its never really gone past 1st or 2nd dates. I ended up talking to someone for about 5 weeks who seemed to match my sense of humour and personality wise was really great. He definitely wasn't my type looks wise but i thought i'd meet him as we got on well. I met him for a couple of drinks and it was really nice, we got on well, no awkwardness but i wasn't attracted to him. We met up a couple of times after as i thought maybe i might grow to like him but still nothing. Now i haven't done anything with him except kissed on the cheek when we've left but he's taken down his profile and put on facebook he's no longer single and its freaking me out a bit as i think he's reading into it too much and i dont think i want to meet him again because i just dont feel anything. How do i tell him im not interested, i feel a bit guilty about trying to cut him out, I'm not used to dating at all apart from the other 2 guys i had a couple of dates with. I'm not sure what to say to get him to back off? Apologies for the length
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (7 February 2014):
 As far as I can determine the ONLY good thing about on-line dating is the ability to say "F-off" without having to face the person.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (7 February 2014):
 I agree with SVC
Just tell him, I don't think this is working out. You have had what 3-4 dates with him? That doesn't mean you OWE him more dates or being exclusive, however, if you aren't interested you do OWE him to tell him. That way you can both stop wasting time.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (7 February 2014):
 Unless he's named you personally you don't know that his status or profile change is related to you. He could be dating a few girls. He could be married.
However, if you are really concerned I would tell him next time he asks, that you don't feel you 2 can develop any further and then block him from your life.
Personally I wouldn't have a man I had met 3 times on my FB, just as you don't give out home address etc. Think safety.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2014): Hey, I don't know if this will help in anyway, but I had the exact same thing with a guy I met over the internet. We clicked right away as far as personality and stuff, but when we met up, it didn't feel right to me.He was intent of being serious with me after the first meeting and he was asking me to move in with him and everything. Not being an overly confident person, I took the polite route with him and just rung him and said, 'I don't think this is gonna work, I think you're a lovely person and I think we'd work better as friends than a couple, but I wish you all the best in the future with your relationships'. He was really apologetic about being too serious and then backed off and we've been friends since. I think it's best to either tell him in person or over the phone, don't text or message him over the internet because you don't know how much he likes you and you don't want to upset him. Good luck :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 February 2014):
 ARE you 100% sure it's about you... OTHER than taking down his dating profile and his facebook status what makes you think he is assuming you two are exclusive?
all you have to do the next time he asks you out is say "no thank you I don't think this is working out"
it's really that simple.
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