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writes:How to catch my boyfriend's attention back?Hi! Ive been going out with my boyfriend for almost six months now and it seems like he does not care when I'm around and he'd rather spend the Friday night with his flatmates. He expects me to socialize, but really, sometimes I just wanna have an alone time with him and probably watch a DVD (with him). I fell in love with him because of his charm and full attention for me, but now, that its kind of fading away, I feel like he does not care anymore. What should I do? It is so sad to think that I'm probably loosing my feelings for him. For the record, I give him attention, give him massages every night (which he loves), cleans his room and bathroom, not care about pictures of ex girlfriends and girls in his computer or girls posters in his room, I cook for him if I can, I never talk back rudely, I get along with his good friends, I support him with his band and hobbies, I give him sex all the time, I clean his nails, I get his drink, I make myself pretty and presentable, I enjoy us being together, I stay and watch movies and cartoons with him, I play play station with him... what am I missing? How can I get his attention back? Am I doing so much? Am I missing something? I just want his attention back like our first 3 weeks together... I love him and I want to stay with him. Is asking his attention too much?Please help! Thank you!
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reader, Happygolucky02  +, writes (11 March 2010):
Hey listen, I think more than being his girlfriend, you are acting like you live to please him and you have other agenda in your life for yourself. remember that respect is commanded & not demanded, till the time you don't realize your importance and self esteem, why will any one else do that? you say you do everything for him, does he value that? or does he treat you like a piece of shit?I mean ask your self, what the hell are you doing with this guy who doesnt even care about your existence? if you really want to go on with him, first thing you must do is talk to him. communication gap can hit your relationship worse than anything. after talaking if he still doesnt care & if you still want to try, dont do stuff for him, be a little selfish & spend some time having fun on your own, & if he asks whats the matter, tell him again. but if he's still ignorant, you're definitely with the wrong guy probably you're not the only girl in his life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2009): Im a guy and I think you have spoiled this guy.
Here what to do, make a list of all the nice things he has done for you in the last month, compare it to a list you have done for him and be honest.
Then ring a group of your girlfriends , get yourself glammed to the nines, and I mean glammed, if you can afford, the hair , the nails go for it, get yourself so that you feel confident and sexy, and hit the town, let your hair down.
One of two things will happen, hell get all huffy like why do you have to be out there , your a young woman enjoy yourself and sitting in his lads pad aint fun,
Or he wont be bothered if he sint well then you love him but he doesnt love you and its time to move on, I hope this helps. I know this because I was stupid enough to let a girl walk and Iven never forgotten it.
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