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writes:Cutting a long story short.... my now ex broke up with me out of nowhere in a pub in front of all his friends (nice) and didnt speak to me for 2 weeks. When he finally did he thought i would fall at his feet and get back with him, as much as i wanted to i stood my ground as i suspected in the time we had apart he may have done something, which i know is fine as we werent together but it meant a lot to me. however, we started to try and sort things, then i found he had been talking to some girl every day. We didnt speak for a couple of days then tried again and i just kept finding things that hurt me. Anyway, 2 weeks ago we were meant to be meeting to talk about things, he basically lied to me and said he was working when actually he went away for the weekend and slept with a girl he had met one night and lied about things to woo her into bed such as my baby niece being his etc (as this girl had a young child.) and our circumstances. Im left feeling completly devastated and i have no idea how to get over him, he was the love of my life but i know he has treated me like shit and im so down and depressed about him and the stuff hes done to me (this is not the half of it) i just dont know how to clear him out of my brain. The whole two months we have been split up but on and off sorting things he has been messing with my head and i wonder if he was leading me on all the time or sleeping with somone else was a way of him coping getting over me and whether these other girls have been a coping mechanism to as it has been a very turbulant break up but i have been good as gold throughout and...he hasnt. It also gets me that he messaged me saying he loved me ....the night he slept with the other girl....but then hasnt wanted anything to do with me since or this girl....i dont understand..... how do i get him out of my brain !?
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reader, petina1 +, writes (3 September 2010):
 You're half way there, you are getting angry. He has treat you like shit, he's two timed you and he also sounds like he's living in hope of getting you back if there's no one else there for him. Keep angry at him and that should do the trick. I'm sorry for you that you cared for a love rat but that's what he is. Breaking up with you in front of his friends as well, what was he thinking? Sounds very immature and like he's wanting brownie points from his chums. He probably messaged you while he was in bed with the other girl because he felt some guilt or he was enjoying playing with your emotions. Just imagine him being in bed with other women, that should help him disappear from your brain. Hope this helps
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