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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Iv been with my boyfriend for just over a year on christmas day! i love him more than anything but we always always argue. We argue over silly things but lately its been because his social life is taking over his life..i feel like iv been pushed aside. last year was a hard year for him with family and he was in hospital ill and i supported him through all of it but since christmas he's hanging around a lot more with his mates- i don't have a problem with him seeing his mates- but when he sells me out for them or when we have plans and he lets me down to see them its really upsetting me obviously! its like he's forgotten about all i supported him with and just cares about his mates and going out..i miss how we used to be and how he used to be. he used to be really affectionate but also really paranoid all the time that he wasn't good enough for me, and he used to always talk about getting engaged and when i said its to soon he'd get really upset-this sounds stupid but i miss that because it showed me he cared!! i feel like i'm loosing him and this upsets me so i bring it up and we end up arguing! but sometimes we have really nice times and we make each other laugh all the time, i just feel that im making the effort and he isn't, he's lost his job and is struggeling with money so i could see he's stressed but he isn't stressed around mates? just me..i broke up with him last week, i didnt want to at all, and said its because he pushed me to the side and after he'd got upset, said sorry and said he'd change, and begged me to stay with him, i got back with him and it hasn't happened since..i just want things to work for us, i want to go on holiday with him this year but my mum and dad wont let me because we argue all the time.. i don't know if this is because we're both young, neither of us are 20 yet, but how can we change? how can we avoid petty arguments? i love him so much and i want us to work more than anything but i feel we're falling apart, so when i get upset about this (which is a lot) he gets annoyed and says i'm stressing him out- and i probably am but i just want us to work!! Thanks, x
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reader, cry  +, writes (21 January 2011):
 you love him quit nagging keep him and be the best damm woman he can find . do you have your own apt. ? invite them over for a movie have them bring thie date get along with his bestfriends girl . let him have his time give it 3 months he loves you and quit breaking up with him .you need to get a life be more independant. get a job do some volunteer work make your self bussy so your not focus on him and the relationship best of luck AK
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