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writes:The man that I am seeing has constantly accused me of cheating when my loyalty towards him has only been solid and faithful. I believe it is his own insecurities that make him act the way he does at times. Whenever he goes out drinking he tells me that I am some hoe/slut because he thinks I am "experienced" in bed. For ex, one time as I was drinking water after a hot session I decided to let the water I sipped linger in my mouth as I slipped his private parts in my mouth, I just had a feeling he could either like this or not, at the moment he said he loved that feeling. Then one night he was drunk he told me that my action disgusted him and he asked me "how many other men have you done that with?" It hurts to hear things like that, because I don't know why he thinks this way and its putting our relationship in a really bad situation. I need help, what am I suppose to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): I wish you are my girl. I've the same problem with my wife. I like expermenting and she like routine missionary. So boring.
Dump this ass hole. He can't be ur hubby. DOn't waste ur time otherwise u will regrate. Life is short.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (21 January 2011):
 A man should treasure someone like you that likes to experiment. Explain it to him Once and for all that you're just experimenting to make him feel wonderful. If he won't buy it then look elsewhere. Theere are a ton of guys out there that would relish your behavior.
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reader, lacrymosa_652  +, writes (21 January 2011):
 Heyy, I'd love to try that water trick, but I'd probably end up having water slopping down my chin. Suave.
Even though you care about this man, he's unlikely to change his attitude - which is horrible, by the way. There's no reason to assume you're cheating or that you're a slut just because you're good in bed. It's one thing to be insecure, but the way he's treating you is unacceptable. Leave him, and when you find somebody who treats you well and can enjoy your "bedroom skills" without ranting at you and calling you a hoe, you'll be so glad you got rid of this man you're currently with. He doesn't deserve you, remember that.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (21 January 2011):
 Sweet, CaringGuy has given you excellent advice.
This man has issues and no matter what you do you will always be verbally abused by him.
Honeygirl
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 January 2011):
This is where you dump the man. Here we have a man who is supposed to care about you, but instead treats you like dirt. Rather than sitting there and listening to him, you should be dumping him and moving on. It's clear that this man has come with some problems, and ultimately you can't solve them. He has to solve them for himself. And it has also become clear with his behaviour that he won't solve this problem. Rather he will just drink and continue to hurl insults at you.
You should let people treat you this way. Dump the man and find a guy who's far more mature and mentally stable.
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