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female
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36-40,
*exie_kingsley
writes:Dear Cupid,Last summer I went abroad and spent almost 5 months there. I had a fiancé in my hometown at that time and I loved him, but I needed to get some work experience, and so I left. I didn't plan on doing anything but work, but I happened to have 3 cute guys working with me. I liked all of them, but one of them became a kind of love at first sight. It wasn't really love comparing to my feelings to my boyfriend, but it was definitely something. So I decided to be with that boy.He didn't show much interest, but some things he did made me think that he was interested in me as well. We had a day off together and went hiking, we talked a lot and watched TV after work. I knew other guys liked me, but I never got any obvious signs from that one. Which only heated my desire to date him. At some point we started having problems with the guys, arguing, but I never stopped feeling attraction to that boy. So at the end of my trip we had a few drinks on the docks and everybody left including Him, but I decided that if he came back, I'd kiss him. His coming back would mean that he was interested as well. And so he did return. We kissed, and it was unforgettable. Later it happened 2 more times, not without his initiative, but I remembered about my Love back home and I didn't do anything I'd regret later on. Moreover, my boyfriend didn't mind me having such affairs at all.Now I'm back home, I'm married to the man that once let me go abroad and we're deep in love. But I can't help thinking about that boy and our affair every now and then. I wonder if he felt anything, if he liked me, if he still remembers me. I'd love to ask him, but I know I won't get an honest answer. I just know that only after I've found out about his true feelings I'll be able to forget and move on.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (5 March 2011):
"I just know that only after I've found out about his true feelings I'll be able to forget and move on."This sounds rather contradictory to me. So what if he says he was madly in love in you and still has a soft spot for you? How would that help you "forget and move on"? Also, I find it strange that your now-husband let you pursue other men. This was not the guy's initiative, this was you getting what you wanted and he's totally fine with that? I guess I'll never understand open relationships. I think the best thing to do is to stop thinking about this guy and start focusing on your hubby.
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