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writes:Hi me and my ex boyfriend resently break up two months ago we were together from last year January we were on and off .. we broke up four times because people told him things I never said about him and he was believing them he block me on everything because he doesn't believe me as moving forward the our last time we broke up was because a girl that like him told him I was cheating on him with a guy and I wasn't all of us were a group of friends I showed him the screenshots with me and the guy and show him it was him that was coming on to me and not me but he still believe her resently I found out he only did because both of them had sex behind my back and they were boyfriend and girlfriend before me he still talk to her now but I relized he was acting funny with me couple months ago like when I visited him like spend a day with him by his house we argue over the silliness things and when I decided I don't wanna have sex he gets on like if he makes his self and he would go on his phone and laugh with some girls or people idk who they where and normally he would open his messages in front of me but that day he didn't so how can I move on from here i am dating someone else but he always apear in my head and seems like I can't get over him could I get some advice on this please ? Thanks
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reader, N91  +, writes (30 September 2017):
 Stop being so defensive against people who are trying to HELP YOU.
You do sound quite immature from your replies as you're just lashing straight out when it's not needed. Take it what is being said and accept it.
You want to know how to move on from someone? BLOCK them, DELETE them, REMOVE yourself from anywhere that would make you cross paths - out of sight out of mind.
If you're still thinking of your ex whilst speaking to another guy then you're not ready to date, simple as. Work on yourself before dragging someone else into the situation who's going to end up hurt when you can't fully focus on them.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (30 September 2017):
 PrincessT it is you who are disrespecting the aunts who log on to help you.
You say: "I do know punctutation! I'm an adult and secondly I don't have a boyfriend me and the person are just talking we taking things slow we doing the (?)
talking stage first me and m ex were together from last year January ."
Well I say prove it. Write like an adult and stop acting out. You don't come across as an adult to me.
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reader, ALM12 +, writes (30 September 2017):
 Breakups suck no way around it. Disconnect from viewing him on social media. Take care of yourself. Love yourself more. Invest in YOU. Pick up a hobby. Travel. Join a gym. Anything to get your mind off of that guy.
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reader, PrincessT +, writes (29 September 2017):
PrincessT is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am minding my own business I ain't looking at his social media and it ain't a competition between me and his ex I dislike her many people do she even slept with one of my friends boyfriend to and the reason why she doing this was because she still likes him I am moving on but moving on takes time as you can see I ain't immature he is every time we get back together some girl tell him some thing about me that aren't true and that's y we broke up . And they are saying that because I relized they weren't really my friends I delete and block every one of them off my social media we had falling out of the same thing and I wasn't doing nothing behind his back I was really faithful to him and like I said he good looking alot of girls want him to .. at the end of the day moving on takes time growing up takes time I could care less about his ex me and her don't speak anymore either because she a lier she told lies on me more than once and I stop talking to her I block and delete her too I ain't care what he do either I minding my own business I getting a job and finished getting my education because guess what I am worth it and I don't have time for no games with my ex I moving on and happy with the person I am taking to now .. I ain't trying to hold on to him either yeah I had heart breaks before and worst than this and I got over it not slow or fast but it takes time like akline song everything in life just takes time ..
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2017): You can't move-on; because you're letting your jealousy get the best of you.
Breaking-up with someone hurts; and it takes more than a month to get-over someone you're emotionally-attached to. I think you're more worried about who he's with; than really feeling hurt about the breakup.
If you breakup with someone four times; you were never right for each-other. Both of you are very immature. You're both too busy listening to hearsay about each other.
Your "so-called" friends are running gossip between the two of you. It's odd they would be constantly telling your boyfriend lies about you. Why on earth are they doing such a thing? Why would he believe everything they say? Seems you'd get tired of a stupid insecure boy like that.
Why would a couple breakup as many as four times?
You were caught in a cycle. Breaking-up and making-up!
That is usually a sign you're trying to hold-on to him; not because you want him, but because you don't want him to be with someone else you know. You're in a competition with his ex to see who wins. Not because you're so love-struck. Your mind can't rest because you're worried about what he's up to.
Time heals. In someone between 18-21, it usually heals in record-time. If you're following his every move on social media, and spying through mutual-friends; or listening to gossip. You're torturing yourself! That will only prolong the misery of your breakup. You have to mind your own business.
Get some new friends, travel in a different circle of acquaintances; and stop spying. Disappear from social media for a couple of months; until you get your head and heart straight.
Grow-up, and move on.
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reader, PrincessT +, writes (29 September 2017):
PrincessT is verified as being by the original poster of the questionListen to me I came here for some help not to be disrespect and for your FYI, I do know punctutation! I'm an adult and secondly I don't have a boyfriend me and the person are just talking we taking things slow we doing the
talking stage first me and m ex were together from last year January . As I say we were on and off and he cheated on me with a girl that like him I only know bout it cause other people came telling me and when I ask my ex he can't answer the question and he just don't Answer it .. and I'm a virgin so that's why I told him no when he ask for sex I only know recently that he and his ex sleep together I was getting over that but after hearing it I felt bad again all over so I guess
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reader, Denizen +, writes (29 September 2017):
Firstly, have you ever heard of punctuation? If you want serious answers have some respect for the people who will be reading your post.
Regarding your break-up, it has only been two months. It took me four years to get over one relationship. It does depend on how long you have been a couple.
To be honest all the goings on sound very juvenile. I think you are better off concentrating on getting your life together. Do some things that mean something to you.
Don't rush into another scene. You don't have to have a boyfriend to be cool. You particularly don't need one who causes you grief.
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