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writes:My boyfriend and I are looking to have a threesome and we are excited about it. I'm 21, he's 33. However I have no idea how we can find a girl we both like, who likes us both!!I've been on about every dating site looking for a girl, found nothing so far.We dont go clubbing etc, but even then how do you find someone?The girls my boyfriend picks out when we're out for dinner or shopping that hes says are cute I feel are way too out of our league! We're both attractive but we're both overweight (i'm a UK size 16, US 12) and don't look like models. What to do?!
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reader, Husbandsexwife  +, writes (16 December 2010):
Been there done that. My husband and I have posted ads on Craigslist and looked on every site there is. Its not easy. Then we gave up....and then slept with his ex wife...lol I know its crazy but I have been attracted to her for a while and just found out she feels the same. Try looking at some people you know, U would be amazed at how many of your friends are closet freaks...lol Good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): It seems as if the other posters are more interested in telling you to change your relationship... but that's not what you asked.
It is very difficult for a couple to find a single young woman who will join them in bed. They are RARE, and are referred to as unicorns... so you can see why.
Fisrt, you need to do some real research. There's a great book on Amazon called "Threesome: How to Fulfill Your Favorite Fantasy". It's well written with some great advice.
Also, you may still struggle to find a girl that will get naked with you. You may want to find a couple with the same desire and work out a deal, where she comes over one weekend, you go over the next... trading threesomes....
good luck, and while not everyone understands the desire, those that do, really do!
Oh, FYI: Being is a long term 3 some is a ton of work as you have to juggle 2 peoples needs. It can be wonderful, and have it's not so great days (having 2 people mad at you at the same time sucks) but I look back on that year of my life with great joy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): WTF is it with some people here? How the hell is a 33 year old dating a 21 year old a pervert?
She's a fucking adult. The second a person hits 16 it ceases becoming morally wrong anywhere but in the U.S.
They are old enough to make their own decisions, and old enough that one no longer has power over the other.
So a threesome is immoral? Look, I agree it's risky and most couples should not attempt it because usually it's only one party that has the desire and the other party is simply going along with it.
But when both parties have the desire and both parties agree and want it, then who the fuck is anyone to stop them?
Stop telling people how to live their lives and go back to your fucking church.
Flynn 24
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (16 October 2010):
 What you do is find a boyfriend who is not a pervert. What are you doing at 21 with a loser 33 year old who is probably a nut case and can't attract a woman in his own age group because he lacks relationship skills.
He's using you for sex and you want to experiment with a threesome, how nice for both of you.
I sense that you don't think you deserve better because you are not model beautiful. You sound like a woman of average size to me and there are plenty of men out there who want women with curves, not skinny models and they won't be trying to get you to do sexual acts that are risky and immoral, he will love you and honor you and your body.
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