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writes:I have recently posted a question asking whether i should stay with my girlfriend or not. After alot of thinking i have decided to end things, my question is How do i tell her i want to end things, i love her so much and i know this will upset her and i can't stand to see her sad, but i know that its best for me. I don't want to argue or fight about it, ive made my descion, but i just need to know how to do it, and how to deal with her being very upset about it.Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, roadman +, writes (31 December 2008):
 Well if you love her why would you want to end?
and if you want to end,then your going to have to just tell her or bring things down to a gental stop,which ever way it goes if she is not finished with you,she going to hurt for some time after the event.
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reader, Deema +, writes (31 December 2008):
 OK, I see it from a different perspective. You do sound as though you really care about her but I can see your predicament. You care but you're not really getting on right? And she's going in the army, so why wait on someone you're not sure of anyway and then discover its no good? Well, whether you dump her now or later - it doesn't have to be instant, you can do it while you're apart if you still feel the same, and that may take the pressure off. I had a boyfriend who went in teh army for 18 months. We stayed together through that but parted after, though it fell apart whilst he was in the army. I think you're not quite ready to do it yet and you may regret it, so don't rush it. The day will come when you know 100% you don't want to do it anymore, then it won't be difficult. When its this difficult its not quite the right time. Good luck.
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reader, Qwerty1432 +, writes (30 December 2008):
Qwerty1432 is verified as being by the original poster of the question2nd time, for those wondering why i wanted to end the relationship in the first place, this is the link to my previous question.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/should-i-stay-with-my-girlfriend-or-not.html
Thanks.
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reader, Qwerty1432 +, writes (30 December 2008):
Qwerty1432 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFor those wondering why i wanted to brake up in the first place, this is the link to my previous questions, explaining why i wanted to brake up.
Thanks for the advice guys, keep posting.
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reader, Deema +, writes (30 December 2008):
If you love her that much you couldn't let her go, it would be impossible. Yes, it feels horrible to tell someone they aren't going to be part of your life any more. There is no easy way, trust me, its very painful for all concerned. Just do the decent thing, tell her straight and then support her while she deals with it. Doesn't mean you have to get involved again, but you've had a relationship and people need a bit of tlc when it ends. We all feel bad about this, don't beat yourself up, but don't kid yourself (or us) you love her so much, like I said, that wouldn't be possible. Good luck. She will get over it.
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reader, blawndie  +, writes (30 December 2008):
 Whatever you do, do not sugarcoat it. Most would think that's what makes it easier, it's not. It makes it harder for the girl. Like Fade878 wrote, do not give her false hope. Tell her it's best for YOU and YOU feel it is not working out. Just be blunt because that way she's not left wondering anything. and trust me, wondering about if there's still a chance is exactly what stops you from moving on. Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): Sounds like what my ex has just done to me :(If you've done it then you've already got her reaction, if you haven't I think you should expect a lot of crying and stuff around that. Just let it go simply, explain why you've come to your decision and what made you do it. Say you'll still be there for her if she ever needs someone to talk to and mean it. She might be upset with you for a few days after aswell. Just explain and be 100% honest, don't tell her anything that isn't true cos it'll hurt her even more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): If you love her, why do you want to break up? What is going on to bring you to this decision?
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reader, Rene16 +, writes (30 December 2008):
No matter how u say it shes still going to be heartbroken. Just tell her the way you feel. In person. Dnt call her or text her. Tell her yall can be friends.
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