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writes: I don't know what to do from this point. My husband doesn't have any affection toward me, and he won't touch me. He has ED. For non- medical reason. I don't know what is the reason for his ED. He says he loves me. Should I believe him?He says he does not want to hear me complain anymore about how bad it is for me. So what does he wants? He wants me to suffer silently?I see it on this site ,that is very common, that man doesn't want to communicate .So what should I do,if I want to save our marriage? I don't want to neg him. But I don't want to suffer. Maybe I have to leave him? He is not showing any effort for change? It is so sad/ Any suggestions Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): I'm sorry for your pain. If you're in a position, I'd seek a counseling session or two to talk aloud about the prospect of leaving him if he is unwilling to get medical and psychological attention for his problem. But remember, he, like most men, is likely extremely embarrassed. SO go ahead, make the appointment, even do it online so you don't have to talk to anyone:) and show up for the appointment. And tell your husband you're goping to the appointment. He'll then know you're serious anout possible next steps or options. He might even change his tune.
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reader, Deema  +, writes (30 December 2008):
 This is very difficult for you. My ex husband was very similar. It is a very lonely existence living with someone who gives nothing. Its very empty. I discovered my ex had been sexually abused as a child, but that was after 36 years - a little too late. I think if you have tried everything you know and it doesn't work, its time to think about what would make YOU happy. Life is short. You have a right to feel like a woman, desirable, loved. I have a man now I don't get to see too often because of his work, but I know how much he loves me. He cuddles me, comforts and supports me, fand its a whole lot different. Just keep knowing you are worth loving, and then do whats best for YOU. Lots of love and luck.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (30 December 2008):
Tell him you want to talk about it once and then you promise to never bring it up again.
Then when you talk about it discuss your options. Do you want to stay in this marriage? Would he be ok with you taking a lover? Would he try viagra?
Have this big long chat and then make your decision on what to do.
If he will not talk about it full stop then he is being very selfish.
Perhaps it may be time to think about a separation if so?
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, briebrie123  +, writes (30 December 2008):
Try consuling that may work if it doesnt work start looking in his car for strands of hail that arent yours. Start looking for lipstick stains on his shirt or pants.GO give him a hug and a kiss if when he walks in the door smell his neckfor purfume that you dont havethats if you think he is cheating. If he doesnt want to hear you complain any more ask him why and if he doesnyt give a good answer of none at all threatin to leave if he doesnt reackt leave fot a little hang with the girls. If he isnt home when you get home park your car some where he wont see and hide in the house
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