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30-35,
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writes:I get pressured a lot mostly by my dad! I'm in college doing a sports course I want to be a coach. He tried to pressure me to finish college this year to work on a burger van with him. I said no, also he trys to make me feel bad about myself! My friends started driving before me and he say's in a cocky voice, "your friends are driving before you, and you don't have a boyfriend, your the only one left on the shelf" (Like if it's a bad thing) - I don't do what my friends want to do if I wanted to do it fine I'd do it but I like to do things in my own time. There are reason's why I don't drive! I get headrush's and my eyes go blurry. He say's "whatever your afraid of the road and your left on the shelf" what do I say to comments like that. (I haven't had these head aces in a while getting better now so I'll probably be driving soon) There are reasons why I don't have a boyfriend ( I don't want to be running around and waisting my time. I'm to busy with college PLUS I don't like any boys around here yet lol. I've had some ask me out though. What can I say to these people? I normally don't tell them the reasons why I want and don't want to do things but it's getting on my nerves now and I feel that I have to say something. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2011): With your dad you can compromise and perhaps work in the van for a few weeks in the summer that way you know what it's like and you can say it's not for you. If you've already been doing that then just tell him a firm no.
Sorry OP but parents will always think they know what's best they'll always nag.
As for driving guess what I'm in my 30's and I don't have a license and don't ever plan on having one. Look people love to equate driving with some kind of freedom but it's actually just a huge financial bond. It's a restrictive chain. I can go anywhere I want in the country on public transport and my bicycle.
Whereas a few of my friends have cars and one had his break down two weeks ago and now he's crippled because of that. You see drivers build their life around their car. They get jobs that require them to have a car to commute to, they move to places only within driving distance of everything and when their mode of transport gets cut off they're screwed. He has to take 3 buses to work now for a total of 2 1/2 hours traveling to work and the same amount of time home, his original commute was one hour and there is no one near him that works in the same place. He has to spent 40 bucks on a cab home if he goes out for the night so he's stuck at home.
The boyfriends thing, get used to that OP. You're always going to have friends pressure you about that because you're a woman and there's this weird idea that society has that women couldn't possibly be happy being single. It's in everything, every movie, tv-show etc where there's a single female character she's always sad, lonely and depressed. Only sex and the city tackled that issue but than again the women in that were always dating and never enjoyed just being them without having to have a man in their lives.
It's weird, we guys don't get that kind of pressure at all from other people about being single but apparently being single as a woman is the end of the world.
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