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writes:I've been married for 10 yrs and 2 boys 14mon and 28 months old. my husband and i have been very distant, sleeping in separate rooms and i try not to communicate with him as much as possible. this is all due to consistant fights and mostly to the fact that his mother got involved in one of our fights six months ago and went way over her head disrespecting me and my whole family calling me names and i mean names... making terrible terrible hurtful comments and also calling friends making me look like a terrible mom and bad wife. although none of our friends believe her and know me very well but i have been really hurt, angry and hostile with my husband. he keeps asking me to forget but I cant. every day i wake up I remember stuff she told me and thats how my day starts. there are nights that i have nightmare about it. i dont know why i am so angry. is it because i kept quiet and did not react to whatever she told me? I feel i want revenge. i have so much hatered inside me and i feel like there is no way i can get past what happened. it has affected me really bad that somedays i feel i can not function normally. how can i forget and live happy. i have tried talking about it to my friends to get myself relieved, have tried keeping myself occupied not to think about it but there is not a single day that i can go on without thinking about what has happened. i keep blaming my husband for it because this all happened in front of him and he didnt do anything to stop it and in fact he teamed up with his mom and they both mentally , verbally and emotionally abused me in a worst possible way. i feel like i should leave this stupid marraige since i feel they are my enemy. what should i do? please help
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reader, girlygirl601  +, writes (25 July 2010):
OMG, I went through the same thing with a mom that couldn't stay out of my business. It is IRRITATING. Honestly I was engaged to the guy and thats why I broke it off.
But..you're married so your situation is different. I would talk to my husband first. Give him every opportunity to handle his family because that is his place. But, if he doesn't or it doesn't work, stand up for yourself. You don't have to tolerate mistreatment from someone you aren't married too.
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