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writes:How to deal with a meddling sister of a boyfriend? My question is due to the fact that my boyfriend's sister who has never had a baby and is younger than me yet assumes she knows everything there is to know about me and my pregnancy. I am about two weeks shy of having my first born and up until this point my boyfriend's sister has been trying to tell me what is going to happen. First when I showed her ultrasound pictures of her soon to be nephew without asking me she posted it online for everyone to see. I didn't want them posted. Then she went online (through a social site) and went asking for a photographer when I already have one through the hospital. (again without asking me) I asked my doctor when I would be back to "normal" with my body and everything. She told me 2-4 weeks depending on whether I have a natural birth and if there are tears when deliverying. My boyfriend's sister had the nerve to say, "she will be better in a week. She's exaggerating." She is going to school to study kids but isn't a doctor nor has she had kids. My boyfriend and I live in seperate houses. I live with my family and he lives with his. I told my boyfriend I would bring our baby to his house on the weekends for now. His sister then had the nerve to say, "That's what divorced people do." I invited them to come over and see the baby at my house whenever but I can't take the baby out at night risking the fact that the baby could get sick. His parents work till night time. My boyfriend is free to come over whenever he feels like and does. My boyfriend's mom says that his sister is just trying to be nice but she's never been "just nice" to me unless it benefits her someway. What should I do?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 July 2012):
 This is probably just her personality and she probably does not mean as much harm as she is causing, however if it was me in your shoes I would feel exactly the same way. You need to be honest with her, tell her how she is making you feel, and ask your boyfriend to have a word with her as well and ask her to keep out of your relationship.
Off course you will not be yourself after a week, yes maybe some people are, but everybody is different. Maybe it is a case that she is jealous of the relationship you have with her brother. But I think the best thing you can do is have a word with her or else just ignore her comments and don't let her get to you. I agree you should not take a new baby out at night and I think weekends are acceptable.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 July 2012):
 Talk to your BF, he NEEDS to be the one who "reigns" her in. He needs to tell her to but out of the relationship.
And honey, you won't get your body back in a week. It's more like 4 weeks to 6 months depending on how your body handles it all. So don't let her make you feel bad.
Also, if your BF won't talk to her I would tell her myself to keep her opinions to herself. You are about to be a mom, so it's time for you to be "the grown up".
As for the Ultrasound, well maybe she is excited, however it was rude of her to post it without asking.
As for the visiting, you and your BF (and your/his parents) will figure it out, it's not up to his sister.
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