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writes:Only being 17 I have lived with my boyfriend for 8 months, we have been arguing constantly for about 5 of the months so he's moving out on the weekend. I love him to bits and he loves me but after living together its made me question if I'm ready for this serious relationship at such a young age. I don't want anyone else but I want my freedom and friends as I've felt so suffocated but I'm unsure of what to do. Do I leave my boyfriend and just be a teenager and enjoy life or do I stay with someone I do love but carry on feeling this way hoping it'll get better? Reply to this Question
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (27 July 2012):
 I think it is a good thing he is moving out, and yes you do need some time just to be a teenager. You have been playing grown ups for way too long, living together needs 2 very mature people who are happy to settle down together and get on with the boring, mundane parts of life that happen when you are adults living together i.e. washing and cleaning, grocery shopping etc.
You are far too young to act like a married couple, at your age you should be out having fun with your friends, wondering where the future will take you and making exciting plans for the future.
There is no need to split up with your boyfriend, but you are definitely too young to try and settle down so soon. Stay with your boyfriend but focus on having some fun and enjoying being a teenager, after all you are only young once and you never get this time back.
When I was 17 I was having the best time of my life, I did have a boyfriend but I was out with my friends loads, planning on going away to Uni, working at a part time job so I had money to spend on clothes and nights out. I look back at that time and it honestly was the best time of my life, I was so happy and care-free, with a great group of friends having loads of fun.
This is your best chance of having a great time before serious things like jobs and university kick in - dont let this opportunity slip away just because you want to play grown ups making house together. If you really love your boyfriend then you can live together in a few years time when you are both more mature and ready for that kind of thing.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Deagan  +, writes (26 July 2012):
 Can you guys date without having to be so serious? Can you two discuss how to make it more casual? For instance, making a deal to not hang out everyday, making sure the both of you see your friends, etc. Can you two address why you were arguing for 5 months?
The best thing to do is once he moves out this weekend, distance yourselves from each other for a bit. Maybe set it up so you guys don't see or talk to each other for a month, and check in afterwards to see if you guys feel the same passionate way for each other and decide whether or not you two want to start over again.
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