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writes:I've read the ebook of Matt Hudson "Get him back forever".He writes how to get your ex back by making them jealous via facebook (pictures out partying with friends,writing with other guys, having "massive fun")I know they should think that youre moving on, but doesnt this backfire? I would like to know if it really creates a fear of loss or just make your ex-boyfriend angry?I, as a woman, would be deeply hurt. How to create fear of loss?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2010): A man I was just crazy about (and he was crazy about me) tried the jealousy tactic by overtly flirting with another woman in front of me and other friends and that was the very moment that I realized there was no future with him. I was so crushed I couldn't even move to leave the room. I just froze there for the next hour wanting to shrivel up and die. I was so humiliated. A man that deserves the gift of my heart has to be strong enough to protect it. Sure he's sorry, so sorry. He was sorry the moment the flirt went to far. I also wonder about the character of a person that would purposed engage someone else just to make their intended jealous. What about her feelings? Again - lack of character.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your opinions! Ive read this book and was pretty irritated by it. then ive found some reviews on it saying it totally works. I just wanted to know what other people think about those "tactics" or how they reacted to them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2010): OP most of us guys don't want game player girls, we don't want girls who will lie and manipulate us. We don't want girls who will read books and play tricks on us to get us back. We especially don't want girls who will use tricks and games to make us feel bad, jealousy is not a nice emotion.
Look at how many people are on this site torn apart because they can't deal with jealousy as an emotion, why would you purposefully try to make someone feel like that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2010): Hahaha sorry but this is one of the funniest posts I've seen in a while. No offence. Does no one else see the utter contradiction in the logic of what he's saying?
This Matt Hudson fool, yes fool, advises you to pretend to be happy all the while pining for your ex.
Of course it backfires because it's fake, it's a lie, it's a game. You create this big false impression that you're happy and moving on. The instant you get back together and the truth comes out he'll realize you were playing a game to make him jealous, do you really think that's going to work?
If it would hurt you deeply then what makes you think it would be acceptable to do it to him? I have a feeling you know it's not. I have a feeling you're asking this because you know Matt Hudson is full of shit but you're trying to see if he's right. Well he's not.
You know how you create a fear of loss? By not wanting to, by actually moving on, by really being happy without him and moving on with your life. Not by faking it.
Really, truly get on with your life and start making being single fun. Being a happy, confident, outgoing single girls is very attractive, Matt Hudson is right about that but he has twisted it become a lie, a big game just to make someone else feel a loss and that makes Matt Hudson and anyone who's believes his flawed logic a fool.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2010): agreed with auntie bim bim. Yes, Id be irate. In fact, I sent a man some serious death threats that my ex got involved with. This of course was back when things were rough for me and my head was not clear on some issues. If you wanna find a good man, a bookstore is always a possibility lol start there. Move on, enjoy the future, and dont expend such energy.
regards
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (9 October 2010):
 I've never heard of Matt Hudson or his book, I might google them later ..... however, why expend all that energy trying to get any sort of emotion out of an ex, they are your ex for a reason, instead of wasting time and energy trying to create a false image why not use that time and energy creating something new and positive, a hobby or use the time earning extra money for that overseas trip you always dreamed about, or art classes or whatever will add to YOUR life with a positive effect rather than a negative one.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (9 October 2010):
 I think that trying to make your ex jealous is about the worst thing you can do when trying to get back with him, because yes, it could backfire. They basically end up resenting you and think that they meant nothing to you because you have just gone out all the time and are talking to guys on facebook all the time etc...
I'm not saying don't go out and have fun etc, but don't be trying to rub it in his face that you're out all the time. All the relationship e-books say to act like you don't care, but all this means is that you don't have any contact with them, unless it is initiated by them.
Spend this time alone to make good use of your life, exercise, enjoy time with family and friends, and see what happens with your ex.
"If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, it's yours forever. If not, then it was never meant to be."
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