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41-50,
anonymous
writes:my wife was divorced and she had a baby that was 6 months old when i first met her. and after another six months we got married. i know the true story of what happened with her ex husband as she only married him because she was very young (18 at the time) and confused due to so complicated stories before and even at the time she never loved him.i love my wife so much and she is the world to me, and the same for the little girl who she actually calls me "baba" now. i never had an issue of her being divorced, i just loved her the way she was and nothing less and wont change a thing about her.its just once we had a bad month of lots of arguments just due to family issues, she brought up her ex husband in a comparing way suggesting he was better somehow, and that really hurt me and although she realises it was wrong and she apologised for it with tears saying sorry. to me it just opened a door of hurt for me that i cant close.i find it hard very hard now, its in my mind all the time, its very hard to get over what she said, and now i feel like i want know how her ex was in every way so i can be better.. i am not fussed about the guy or give a damn about him or i feel threatened by him, i just want to be better for my wife and i dont want to ever think that my wife sees another man better than me. and i dont want live being compared even if she says she doesn’t. and she loves me not him and she left him with her own choice and now she is with me, but i just find it hard and i dont know how to get over it?? and just relax and be in love with my wife as i used to.. ;-(
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): thank you, i knew i just have to get over it as i cant give up my wife for anything, and even that sometimes i just feel angery with myself because i know my wife feels bad and its getting to much for her of me hurting about it all this time and its getting between us being just happy... but i just cant get it out of my head, and sometimes i just find myself channaling that hurt by hating her ex.. but in the same time i dont want to, because regardless he is in the end the little girls, my little girl that calls me baba's father, and i dont want disrpect him for her as one day she will know who is who and i love her so much and i dont want regret that...
its just so hard... anyway may be letting out helps thank you guys....
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reader, dealwithit101  +, writes (16 November 2009):
You won dude. obviously she loves you more then the other guy. just dont worry about it man. just tell yourself that and it'll pass
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