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female
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writes:Hi everyone I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 12 months now. We were set up on a date by my brother in law and I have never looked back. I had broken up with the father of my 8 year old daughter, 2 years prior, having been together for 5 years. I had dated since but things never really went anywhere and I just never found anyone that I clicked with, let alone ever even liked enough to even consider introducing to my daughter. Fast forward 12 months, my boyfriend met my daughter a few months ago and the two of them already have THE most amazing bond. I introduced him as a friend at first and she was already begging me to 'make him my boyfriend'. Things were going so, so great and I couldn't believe my luck. He practically lives here now (is here for weeks at a time and literally just goes home for clothes now and then) things have moved really fast but everything just feels right. He is such a kind hearted, generous soul and insists on contributing here financially and with childcare. My daughter has him around her little finger and he quite literally spoils her rotten and puts her before everything else. He has always worked long hours and it's something I've gotten used to - it also suited me really well first starting out because I was so used to it being just little one and I, that I became super independent and still really valued my own space. He would work a lot but would always have a few hours to spare in the evenings so we could all eat dinner and spend some time together.Recently he's been promoted in work (he is now a business manager at a well known dealership) and leaves for work at 7 each morning, he is supposed to finish his shift at 6 but never really leaves until at least 7.30. it takes him an hour to drive home and by the time he gets in, I am lucky to see him for an hour before he falls asleep because he's exhausted. It wouldn't be so bad if he had weekends off but he just gets every other Sunday and all day on a Thursday (I work Monday to Friday so am always in work on this day).I'm just starting to feel like I don't really get enough time with him. When I do get time with him on his days off he is always so tired and wants to enjoy his quiet time by doing nothing (and rightly so). I genuinely believe with all my heart this is the man I'm going to marry and wouldn't dream of ending things I just don't know how to deal with these emotions or broach the subject - he is such a good guy, I feel like if I tell him he will feel awful, make sure he is staying up late to spend heaps of time with us and totally burn himself out. He is SO pleased with his promotion and I know just how hard he worked to get there. I'm just struggling a little here and wondered if anyone has been in the same/similar position before? What did you do to help keep your relationship strong and help alleviate those 'I feel lonely' emotions? Even if you haven't - any outsider perspective and advice would be greatly appreciated! Am I just overreacting?Thank you so much in advance Reply to this Question
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