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writes:I'm 15 years old and have had intercourse with my boyfriend who I have been with for over 1 year but I want to be completly safe and get a form of contraception but I don't know how to ask my mum and how would she react when I tell her I've had sex help? Reply to this Question
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reader, Anna.m +, writes (2 January 2010):
Anna.m is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou so much for your advice it's great :) and Im so happy you understand what I'm going through it's horrible trying to bring up the conversation and when's the right time :S
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (2 January 2010):
 Well technically you dont have to tell your mum anything - you can make an appointment to see your GP yourself, go on your own and your doctor will be more than happy to give you some form of birth control to suit you. So just keep that in mind so you know you can get contraception (its free as well so dont worry about having to pay for anything) no matter what.
It is great that you want to be safe - it is so important to use contraception so it is nice to see a teenager that is being sensible about sex for once! So well done you!
You are right in wanting to talk to your mum about it - it is a good thing to be able to talk to your parents about things like this. But be prepared that her initial reaction may not be a good one - mums hate the idea that their little girls are growing up and having sex, they just want to protect you and see some guy having sex with you as taking away your innocence. In her mind you will always be her little girl, even though you are developing into a woman you will always be a child to her. So try and keep that in mind, it will help you to be more understanding to your mum.
I guess all you can do is be honest with her - I reckon she will probably be expecting it if you have been in a relationship for a year now. So just tell her that recently you had sex for the first time with your boyfriend, and you would appreciate it if she would come with you to the doctors to get some form of contraception. Yes she might go mad, or she might respect you for being honest and wanting to be safe. I dont know what sort of person she is, or how strict she is with you so I cant judge what her reaction will be.
So my only advice is this: Make sure you go to the doctors regardless of your mum's reaction - you need to be taking some form of contraception and being safe is the most important thing. Be honest with your mum is all you can do - hopefully she will be understanding and appreciate that you have told her and are being sensible about having safe sex. But if she does get mad (like my mum did when she found out I had sex at 15- she didnt find out from me though so that made it worse) then all you can do is listen to what she says, try not to get upset and just know she will get over it eventually (my mum took about a month to get over it!).
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (2 January 2010):
Well you live in Britain, so you can go to the doctor privately, in confidence, and get the pill. If you do want to tell your mum, then tell her you want contraception just in case. However, you are under 16 and you've had sex, which means you've broken the law. So don't have sex again until you're 16, or you can get into a lot of trouble.
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