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writes:I've been going out with this guy [C] for 2 months, though I have went out with him before. We aren't sexually active, but we have felt eachother. He says he loves me and he wants to marry me, and I promised I wouldn't leave him. Lately I've been paranoid and I know its because of C, I don't know why but I just know its him. Lately I feel like I don't want to be with C, and im not that interested in him anymore. I want to break up with him, but I'm afraid he will start rumors about me or he will do something to himself. I'm also afraid hes going to tell everyone about what we have done, and I don't want to break his heart and I'm not sure how to break up with him without anything happening to me or him. I need help on how to break up with him to where it won't start or cause anything... Reply to this Question
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reader, Jodie_Babe  +, writes (10 January 2010):
 I think that if you think this boy is capable of telling people your "little secret" he couldn't have felt so crazed on you anyway.
& if he cared so much about you and wanted to be with you for the rest of his life - he would never do anything like that to hurt you even if you've hurt him.
He may be upset for a while, but he should get over it - you're only young! And he may not want to talk for some time, but eventually if he loved you as much as he says he would be grateful just to be your friend; even if nothing more.
I hope this helped.
Jodie.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (10 January 2010):
You must not allow yourself to go out with a man because you're worried about what he might do if you don't. Yes, he might start rumours, yes he might do something to himself, yes he will be hurt and yes he might tell everyone about what you've done. But I'm afraid it's something you have to be brave enough to accept in the world of dating, because you'll have to face this again, maybe even several times more before you meet your Mr Right. All you can do is privately tell him it#s over, as calmly as you can. What he does then is up to him. But don't be blackmailed. And let's face it, if he does start rumours or say anything, you'll know he's really not that great. Be brave. It will be all right.
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