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*alshie93
writes:In relationships I'm always the one to make the moves and to get hooked by the girl, but I've met a girl now, and we get on and that, but I don't want to come across easy to get, I don't want to be the person to text her, and that. She called me before first, and I want it to sort of her chasing me, even though I like herWhat tips are there to do that, Should I be the one to actually text her, and how do I increase the likelihood of her being the one to fall for me, rather than me for her ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2010): Ditto what YouWish said. Can't say it any better myself, but REALLY wanted to enforce the point. Maybe it's a bit of a double standard, but the fact is, the guy does the chasing. If you fall back, she'll assume you aren't interested.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (5 June 2010):
 You're the guy it's your job to be the chaser. And being the chaser doesn't make you look easy to get it makes you look confident and in control. You go chase but do it on your terms :-)
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (5 June 2010):
 I must correct myself:
Often, *many* girls who chase are labelled "needy" or "clingy". I don't hold that viewpoint that girls who chase are needy or clingy. I hope I didn't offend anyone by making it sound like that's MY judgment. Far from it. I've gone after guys I've wanted before!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (5 June 2010):
Why do you want to be chased? Isn't the point to get the girl, and not wrangle or play games about who gets chased?
Girls aren't usually the chasers because girls who do chase get labelled as "needy" or "clingy". Why do you want to chance this girl getting frustrated with your apparant lack of interest? That's what will happen. The girl will get mixed signals due to your game playing, wonder what's wrong with her, and eventually some other guy without issues WILL go after her. You'll lose out because your ego wants to be stroked by you being the one chased.
So what's more important, the girl, or your ego? If you want something, GO AFTER IT.
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