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30-35,
*abyyblonde
writes:Sooo my boyfriend of over a year just moved to college a couple weeks ago, and he's really excited about his college life, as he should be. He's been attending fish camp and all kinds of introductory fun activities to his school before it starts. Naturally, he's been busy having fun and hasn't had much time to talk to me while he's been doing these things. Now, I know I should be happy for him. He's having a blast, and I have no right to be mad about that. I should be encouraging and supporting him. But the other part of me, the part that really really misses him, feels left out by all his fun and inability to talk to me consistently :/ I'm torn between these two halves. I feel like I'm sitting at home missing him while he's having way too much fun to be missing me at all. It hurts. But I feel selfish for being upset with him about this. I want to be able to listen to him telling me the stories and be there for him.I also can't help but to wonder if maybe this is just a pre- college excitement stage, where all the fun and hype is being built up, so it's new and he's excited, but maybe when school starts and he's forced to study (he's going to be an engineer), he won't be so enraptured and lost in the celebrations, and maybe things will calm down? Maybe this is just temporary? I'm not sure.I want to be happy for him, but it's hard to be happy without feeling left out. Help! What do i do??
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (22 August 2010):
 Ha in college u dont really start to calm down until halfway thru junior year? How's the communication? The thing about this that sucks in these kind of relationships is he's in college and these are the best years of his life, u meet so many diff people from many of backgrounds, clubs, activities, attending games, the school spirit, and the endless parties. Well, I would just let him talk about his college life, tell him about ur day..dont forget about u. Are u going to go to the same college? If not, then I would probably let this relationship go, bc one he's busy until he gets a break from school, and two he's going to meet so many other people and its hard to keep up the maintenance of a relationship while ur in college. And if u need and want the attention which u do deserve, then im afraid u need to let this boy go.
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