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writes:I think my fiance is or has cheated and I am wondering what I should do about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2008): Babes your post is so short, it's hard to give you advice..
Some people cheat, and when they cheat the do so for various reaons. Sometimes they are unhappy, the feel unloved and misunderstood, somebody else comes along and makes them feel better. Some people cheat because they always cheat. They get bored being with one partner. They are always thinking of the next persson, the next conquest, they don't even enjoy the cheating, because when they are with the other person they are already thinking of the next one. Some people cheat for revenge, they are tired of being with a partner who thinks badly of them, so they stop trying, they want to hit back with a big statement that says "yes, I'm as bad as you think". Some people cheat because they get swept away with romance and forget how to think. They meet a professional liar, who knows all the good words to say and the good things to do, and pretend to be the perfect person.. people get confused and think, "hey this person must be the greatest person in the world, they sound just like a movie or a story book".. Other people get bored, they get tired of the same relationship day after day, doing the same things with nothing new. They can see what the relationhsip will be like, they can map their lives. They get scared, they want one chance at a little excitement, something dangerous, so they can say, yes, once, I did something exciting but the last 50years have been boring...
Lots of reasons to cheat, and depending on the reason, the solutions will come. Sometimes people forgive, sometimes they hate, and sometimes they walk away but always feel sad.. Sometimes they run away as fast as they can..
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2008): This might be very difficult and is probably not what you want to hear, but if he cheated on you, you need to decide about the future of your relationship.
Josephine Hart said: " We do have choice, but not without some agony".
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