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writes:I've started an adults course at college one day a week and I have fallen for my teacher. We are both in our late 20's and we get on well but I don't want to do anything while he is still my teacher. The course finishes in a month and the whole class will be going for a drink to celebrate. I want to talk to him then but scared he doesn't like me like that and it'll be awkward and I'll look silly. What should I do? How should I subtly tell him I like him or try to meet up with him after?
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reader, femmenoir  +, writes (10 March 2016):
 Hi,
i have been in your exact situation and what i did learn was that, although a lecturer may very much like one of his students, doesn't necessarily mean that he will take his feelings to the next level.
I was studying Psychology and in that line of study/work, qualified staff will not date a student for at least 1 to 2 years after the course is complete.
Why? Because by law, they're not allowed to.
In Australia, there are specific laws surrounding teaching on a professional level and getting involved with a student whilst teaching, or thereafter.
I would encourage you to not ask him out now, to not make any move that implies you are keen and interested, certainly not until the celebration night.
Even then, play it calm, cool and non-overly overt.
If you can see that your teacher appears very friendly and relaxed in your company, then by all means, ask him in a casual and friendly manner if he'd like to go out for a coffee.
You could even write your mob ph number down and hand it to him discreetly, then wait and see what happens.
Obviously, if you pick up on negative vibes from the start, you won't make any move or give him your ph number, but if the contrary, then it's fine to do so and to give it a try.
It's better to have found out and dealt with the outcome, rather than never having tried at all.
I wish you all the best! :-)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 March 2016):
 Its worth a shot, its better to have tried than to be left wondering what if. Just tell him on the night out that it would be nice to keep in contact and offer him your number if he wants to get in touch. Play it cool.
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reader, Ivyblue +, writes (9 March 2016):
 My advice would be to keep it cool and casual. For the moment, my advice would be to see how things go at the celebration drinks. If all goes well and you get a good vibe, then simply offer your number and say that it would be good to catch up then ask would he like to go for a coffee. Hope fully you get a yes, if not then it's not like you have to see him again at college but just remember a little embarrassment never killed anyone. Good luck
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