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writes: What can I do to get a mans attention? Need sure fire ways to get the man I fancy to notice me, pretty sure he likes me too, have spoken to him on occasion but he just won't make a move, he is def single! Men - what do you like women to do? Is it good to let men make the first move? Or shall I just 'plow' on in there and dare to ask him out...ahhh!!Girl, aged 24 (should know better) needing advice. Thanks in advance. PS I am crap at flirting, I don't know where to start!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2006): (Original poster of question) Thanks for all advice, well I'll be out tonight with some friends and know he will be too, so (without getting too drunk - certainly not good idea I know!!) I shall just make that move, I'll let you know of the outcome, you all have given me confidence, thanks again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2006): i disagree with the first comment about how it's a bold move for a woman and a nightmare if he says no. why should we be the only ones allowed to be the initiators of contact? women aren't straight forward enough. they always feel that they have to wait for the guy. i think you should definitely ask him out. sometimes we really are just too shy to make a move, and if you ask him out, that takes the load off of him. don't play into that whole gender crap. ask the guy out. it may work out great for you.
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reader, anon2907  +, writes (1 August 2006):
 I heard a saying once
'Regret the things you've done, not the things haven't.'
OK, so don't take it to extremes, but......
Imagine 10 years from now, you never asked him out. Will you wonder 'what if'?? If you really like him and get the vibes he likes you, then surely you will.
Now look back and imagine you asked him out. He said yes! Hurrah, pat yourself on the back for doing the deed! And then reminisce of the time you had together - maybe you're even still together!!!
He says No! Sh*t!!! Eeek, embarassing for 10 minutes and then you think - 'well actually I did good, I was honest, open, friendly and made the first move. So he said No! His loss, I'm still great and at least I know how he feels!!'
Ta da!!
You get the vibe - ask him out!!
GOOD LUCK, please post back the answer!
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reader, shania  +, writes (1 August 2006):
 I agree with Shelleyscott,you need plenty of eye contact with him.A fella will definately know that you are interested with him if you stare at him and once he looks,you give him your lovely smile.Then if you got enough confidence you can ask him out for a drink,if he is interested he will take up your offer.Good luck.
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reader, simply j +, writes (1 August 2006):
i am going through the same situation,which is driving me crazy.i am no good at flirting or asking girls out,i would,and hopefully will,just ask if they are dating,then they will know you are interested...good luck
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reader, Shelleyscott +, writes (1 August 2006):
You could always ask what he does in his free time and if he mentions something say 'That sounds fun/interesting etc and say that you would like to try it or whatever. Sound really interested and ask him lots of questions and keep looking in his eyes. Make sure you have a good rapport going with him. If you are picking up lots of signals that he fancies you you could try asking him out yourself but you need to be sure as it's a bold move for a woman snd a nightmare if he says no.Good Luck!
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