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*pink101
writes:I have been broken up with my ex for almost five months now and I have been getting on with my life, am really busy with friends and am beginning to feel happy with myself and my life again. But I cant shake the feeling that I want to give things another shot because I still love him and I think we have too much chemistry to ignore and walk away from - I dont want to be with anyone else. I have been on a few dates and I know that I could have started new relationships with someone else, but I cant forget about my ex. After we broke up we talked a lot and he said some really nice things about us, but then it turned bad because I wasnt giving him his space when he asked for it and that made him really angry with me, caused him to say horrible things to me and just be plain nasty i suppose to make me back off, which I have done. I feel horrible about the way I treated him after the break up and I am really ready to say sorry and ask to start over.... Any suggestions on how I should go about this? I am scared he will just yell at me and hang up on me - he doesnt respond to anything. Should I just keep trying to move on or should I follow my heart one last time?
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reader, 1pink101 +, writes (23 March 2007):
1pink101 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello, thank you all for your replies, they were very helpful - although conflicting!!! I dont know what I am going to do, so I guess until I do know what I want, I should just keep going the way I have been. If it is meant to be it will be as they say and I guess sometimes love isnt enough. Thanks again. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2007): Hi. This is a tricky one. If he has asked you not to contact him then you really have to decide whether you want to risk annoying him to get an apology message to him. He might be trying to let you go to clear his head and decide what he wants from life.
Its difficult for me to say one way or another which is best as sometimes space is all someone needs to realise they miss their ex too much.
Sometimes, the other party might just be waiting for that apology to come through before they start thinking about coming back.
The SAFEST approach and the one I am going to advise (despite what I said earlier) is to keep on going as you are and let time decide if he wants to return to you. Dont YOU be the one chasing him, because the break was more his decision.
I know you havent found anyone yet, probably because you miss your ex. Its painful to let go, but you can do it and you have come this far already, ok? 5 months is a good break but its not an eternity. Once you start missing him less, you will start to see qualities in others that you like and may prefer. Youre a young girl so dont get hung up on someone this early on in life. Youve got plenty more years to enjoy yourself and try not to think about going back to the past so much. Look forward and do things for yourself. Youll get a lot of satisfaction from your own independance, and Mr Right will find you, believe me!
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reader, ANOYMOUS1  +, writes (22 March 2007):
Sorry for your breakup. Who broke up with who at the start. You don't need to be sorry because he was the one that got angry. right now give him space and move on.let him miss you
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