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*luenee
writes:We're currently in long distance relationship. She'd left the country before three months...She got a mail from a guy...saying i love u so much and kiss you.. I got to read that mail before her when i checked out her facebook..and she 'd deleted that mail.. Then i wrote mail to her-".."why you deleted that mail? Do you want to hide that from and you want me not to see those mails and may be your reply to that mail...why he sent such mail?you want all to be happy with you.. If you deleted that mail. Its ok, but at least you'd to share with me na that he had sent you such mails.. Be honest to me na.. If you stop sharing with me then don't you think it will make me feel bad? If i do share everything with you although may be it hurts you sometimes but i do share with you and make everything be normal but why not you? Or you just love me,because you need me?"."she replied to me-"."do you know why i deleted that mail?its just for you..i know if you read that mail,you won't feel good and you can't sleep whole night. But for the one whom i deleted it, sent such mail to me.. Don't you have trust over me? You made me feel think that me myself is very bad girl.. I just didn't want to hurt you but you thought me is not good.. What to do if he loves me and sent such mail to me..? Is it my fault that he love me? Huh bf,what can i do? You know my facebook password,if i had not trust over you, i wouldn't have shared password.. Yours promise and plus my mom's promise i've not replied to that mail..sorry for not telling about it,but i don't wanna you be hurt by that mail"."Then i apologised yesterday. And said her not to do like this. I want you to share everything. What if it hurts for a while.. If you're committed to our love relationship then it won't matter. So just share with me..and she also apologised.. Later it got ok..when i sent her such mail,it had hurt me double than she got hurt after reading it.. I love her a lot..actually this guy loves her.. And his mom had told her(my gf)to pretend that she loves him just because he was being careles to his daily life.. And she had done so and she used to reply those mails saying i love you too, just pretending of loving him as said by his mother.. Me had read such mails before too,and i asked why you sent him such mails.. If you love him then why you pretending to love me too? And bla bla.. But later she said its just for her mom.. And its the same guy who sent such mail to her.. Should i just take it normal? Or should i react over other guys sending her mails saying i love you so much and kiss you???
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reader, FloridaCatGirl  +, writes (7 February 2011):
 Thank you for the response! I'm still confused though. Why on earth would this man's mother ask your girlfriend to "pretend" she has feelings for her son, and ask her to leave him loving messages. This is ridiculous. Your girlfriend is feeding you a bunch of lies. No mother in her right mind would do something like that. Even if it were true (and it's NOT), she should have enough respect for you to say NO! No man in his right mind would put up with this. Tell her you are not dumb enough to fall for her absurd excuse. Please don't fall for her lies, you deserve so much better!
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reader, Aluenee +, writes (7 February 2011):
Aluenee is verified as being by the original poster of the question@florida:
sorry i made it complex to understand it..
That guy 's mother said my gf,to say so.. Just coz he was being bad.. Just for sake of him she said so. The guy loves her
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reader, FloridaCatGirl +, writes (6 February 2011):
If you are in a committed relationship, your girlfriend should not be telling another man that she loves him! You need to tell her that is unacceptable. She needs to decide whether she wants to be with you or him... but she can't have both. This is not normal behavior, and I don't understand why her mother would encourage her to tell him she loves him. It appears that your girlfriend lives in a different country. Does this man live near her? If so, I suspect she is dating him also. If she wants to date others, then you should be able to do so as well. Let her know that! Good luck!
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reader, Aluenee +, writes (6 February 2011):
Aluenee is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhy no advice yet?
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