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writes:I would like your advice on how to react if I bump into my ex. We split up late in 2009 after 2 1/2 yrs together. I can't really say if we parted on good terms or not really, we just drifted apart I guess due to distance (we live over 30 miles away from each other). We agreed that our relationship wasn't working as it was, and I thought that meant we were going to work on things so imagine my shock when I never heard from him again. However, I loved him very much (despite what I've written on here he did have many good qualities!) and not a day goes by when I don't think about him. Even now, sometimes I am filled with anger towards him at the way he suddenly severed all contact with me and of course I was unable to express it to him at the time so I had no outlet for my feelings! I recently discovered that he had visited an attraction only 2 miles from where I live (with his girlfriend and her children). Given that he was so close to where I live, there is a chance I may bump into him in future. How should I react if I do?
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reader, ashley187  +, writes (10 February 2011):
 I would act cool, calm and collected.. like your life went on just fine without him (and it did!! ) Be the bigger person and walk away with your head held high. That's what I would do.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (10 February 2011):
 Wow that's a tough one! I think you should be totally casual because you already know he's involved with someone else now, so there's no need to be overly friendly, or hug him. I think that would seem desperate and unnecessary given the way he so quickly dropped out of sight. At best, if you see him, just smile and then quickly avert your attention. If you are close enough to speak, simply say "Hi" and keep moving. Do not stop to chat. I know it's tempting to moon over him in front of his new love, and get her wondering about you and possibly jealous but personally, he doesn't deserve the ego boost and she may not be the jealous type. More than likely, when the moment happens, it'll happen naturally and whatever you do will feel right. So don't sweat it.
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