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writes:Ok so I recently broke up with my long term bf. Totally gutted and shocked - right out of the blue he breaks up with me. Over the phone. Am getting over him. Thankfully when you get hurt by someone, it becomes very easy to see the bad in them. Breaking up was the best thing and I can see that now.Anyways, I am in no way looking for a relationship. I was with my ex for almost a year. I want to be single for a while. But there's this guy, we'll call him Mr X. Mr X and I both work together - at different parts of the country. But our jobs means that sometimes our paths cross quite a lot. We bumped in to each other again about a month ago, and he was quite flirty. Problem was, I was a little tipsy and was busy networking and so didnt really have chance to speak to him much. But we did have a brief chat and so when we got home we looked eachother up on facebook. We've spoken a few times - about general stuff. We have so much in common. Not only do we have work in common - in many ways, he can relate to my work related stresses, but also we share the same love of books, music and history. Then we started the poking thing. I poke him, he pokes me back, I poke him back, he pokes me back again etc... It's being going on for almost a week now. As I said I dont want a relationship but I cant get away from the fact that I am attracted to him. He's just gorgeous. Quite literally, he is the personification of sex. Thing is tho, in a couple of months, our paths will probably be crossing again. Poking can be a bit like flirting right? So, I was thinking of maybe dropping him a line like "Will be visiting your neck of the woods in a couple of months, fancy meeting up for a drink?" and seeing what happens. What do you think?
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (21 October 2007):
 It sounds like you want one but you just aren't sure that you are quiet ready for one. Give things time to develope slowly and naturally. One day at the time as they say and good things come to those who wait. It seems that you are well on the way to a possible friendship if nothing else. So take your time and have a wee bit of fun flirting along the way. Just don't overdo it and it will all work to your advantage. Good luck and God be with you.
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reader, Somethingeasy +, writes (21 October 2007):
 Try not to think about Mr. X to much you will probally over think the matter.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (21 October 2007):
 I think you're sending him mixed messages, whether intentionally or unintenionally. You say you don't want a reltionship but your gestures insinuate that there is something between you, not so much the poking but generally unless specified drinks with someone of the opposite sex are generally interpreted as a date. Sort your head out first and work out whether you want a relationship or not since you don't seem sure. If you decide you do by all means ask him for a drink and carry on poking but if you're not maybe pull back a little until you're ready to move on, either with him or with someone else.
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