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writes:Hi everyone. I'm 24 yrs old and have never been in a relationship. I'm working as a assistant network admin. I am not able to get along with women well... a very straight forward guy which many women dont like initailly coz they always like to be pampered and all that stuff.I so want to be in a relationship which I have realised lately but have no clue abut how to approach and most women i come across have had previous relations(which isnt a much of a concern) but I tend to get afraid thinking I might get mocked or would just make a fool of my self.Always thought about meeting someone and gradually falling in love with each other but looks like it only exists in movies and textbooks, what makes me sick is about what to say next after I introduce myself....I dont lack confidence in any other thing. Just inexperienced.and most importantly what I wish is that I just fall for a single girl and make her and only her the happiest women ever.Recently I have met a girl at my study place were I go after work. How do I approach and what to say???Thanks for your time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2011): there is no real way to gain confidence except through practice! yes, you will probably be rejected a few times, but that is the same for everyone! I'm sure if you just keep things simple, you wont be mocked. Most girls are just flattered to be asked, even if they aren't particularly looking to date or if its not really the right circumstances.
The important thing is that you understand that there is someone out there for everyone, these things just take time. The other thing is you mention you want to fall for one girl, try not to put so much pressure on yourself! meet lots of people and try to get to know them socially, don't worry at the early stages about quickly falling in love, there is no rush!
As for this girl that you have recently met, I would recommend trying to talk to her a few more times first, just some general conversation, maybe ask her what she is studying or something along those lines, or mention that you have seen her there a few times and she must be working hard on something, see if she seems interested in talking with you. Then maybe ask her to go get a coffee or for a drink sometime. If you are worried about what to say, the best thing is to ask her questions about herself, what she likes/wants to achieve/what does she do for fun. things like that aren't too personal, but allow her to talk about herself, which everyone enjoys, and allows you to get to know her without having to worry about filling the silence. Over time you should get more comfortable with this, and find it easier. Good luck!
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