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26-29,
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writes:So theres this guy who flirts with my girlfriend and it pisses me off. He bribes her for pictures and tries to turn her on. Just like every other woman, she hides a lot and i know it, and she tells me not to say anything. What should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2011): Don't even deal with him. Deal with her.
It takes two people to flirt unless he likes talking at people who just remain silent. She does not have to interact with him when he is doing this stuff. It's her responsibility not to, since she is supposed to be your girl.
There is an unlimited supply of guys out there ready to flirt with another guy's girl. You cannot hope to stop them all. You need a girl who does not respond to them.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (2 December 2011):
 The guy who is flirting with your girlfriend is NOT YOUR PROBLEM; how your girlfriend deals with him is the issue you need to deal with.
He BRIBES her for pictures… how does he BRIBE her and for what kinds of pictures? I’m sorry but as a former swinger, currently in a monogamous relationship, no one could BRIBE me or beg me or blackmail me or FORCE me to give them pictures of me. Not clothed not nude, not sexual. NO pictures of me are sent to men that ask… NOT that there are men that are asking me for pictures… now I verbally flirt with guys all the time but I don’t lead them on or let them think they have a shot at me… they know I’m a very taken woman and that my flirting is just harmless fun… the parameters of the flirtation are long and well established….
Then there is the statement “JUST LIKE EVERY OTHER WOMAN, SHE HIDES A LOT”… sorry this is bogus. NOT every woman hides things or lies to her partner. IF she’s hiding stuff from you, she is lying to you. Lies of omission are still lies…. This is not about HIM this is about HER behavior. She values you so little that she feels that lying to you is acceptable.
She tells you basically to suck up her behavior and accept it. What should you do? Well it depends on what you want? Personally I think if you put your foot down and tell her to stop lying to you and tell you the truth she won’t do it and you will have to “catch her” in a lie and then you have to decide if lying is an acceptable aspect of your relationship.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (2 December 2011):
 I dont agree flirting isnt harmless... "Though shall not covet" Thats a commandment for a reason.
Im not sure you can do anything about it. If it was your wife i suppose there would be some ways of handling the situation. But its not even worth it over a teenage GF if your age is correct. she has a mind of her own and she will decide who she wants to be in a relationship with But in 10 years you probably wont remember this girls name anyway
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (2 December 2011):
 Relax. You have her he doesn't. A little flirting is harmless. Be secure in the knowledge that she picked you.
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