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*h1p01
writes:Hey all.SO I am fairly new to dating. I have only have had one girlfriend and that was a dorm relationship and those don't really start the traditional way if you know what I mean. So now after months of being single I finally met this amazing girl. We have been on 2 dates and have a 3 one planned for this weekend in the North End of Boston. I have hung out with her many times before though because she is my younger sisters friend. We both are really comfortable around each other and have a ton of fun when we go out. I really like her and she seems really into me. My question is this. How should I break the touch barrier? We have not hugged or held hands. I tried to feel out her response to physical closeness on the last date and she didn't seem to repulse from it, she just seemed too shy. Do you guys think I should try to hold her hand/hug her on this next date? I know this kind of question probably sounds really stupid and childish coming from someone my age.thanks
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reader, ch1p01 +, writes (15 August 2011):
ch1p01 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks people.. Just thought I would post that on Friday night we spontaneously went out and I did end up holding her hand which in turn gave us the amount of physical comfort with each other so that when we went out Saturday we could get close enough that i kissed her and she kissed me back..Thanks for telling me to just watch for signs, wait for the moment to be right, and ball up :)
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reader, cheers  +, writes (10 August 2011):
 Come on,Guy. Since you LIKE her,be DARING to take steps forward.You don't expect her to take first move,right?. Pls express that you care about her. She'll get the hint that you're interested in her.
Simply ask," Can i hold your hand?". She'll nod her head. When send her back home, don't forget to give a KISS.Other idea,Give nicely wrap Flowers or Bear as suprises on her B'day or valentine day
What's her hobbies? if movies, then plan it for nxt outing.Next step, you'll naturally know. She's really the LUCKY GIRL having you as a Bf. Good luck
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reader, xanthic +, writes (10 August 2011):
 It's not stupid or childish, everyone experiences this at least once in their lives. It's just part of dating and getting to know someone. I suggest you test things first by briefly touching a 'safe' place, such as her arm or back. If she doesn't shy away from that or reacts positively, she probably won't mind hugging or holding hands either. If she does, give it some time. She might just be very shy or inexperienced, but as long as she feels comfortable around you she'll eventually warm up to you.
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