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How should I approach my parents and family about introducing my Bf to them? Especially as he's 10 years older than me?

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Question - (3 June 2017) 4 Answers - (Newest, 15 June 2017)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Hello,

I am 22 years old and in a relationship with a guy ten years older than myself and have been for almost 4 years.

My parents have never really objected to me having a partner however them and older members of the family have always told me to make sure I prioritise my education and earn my degree first before I introduce them to anyone.

As i'm near the end of my undergrad and beginning a masters in October, its about time they met him.

Despite coming from a very traditional African background, my parents are two of the most understanding and loving human beings (especially mum) and will welcome anyone with open arms.

Now my question is mainly for the parents reading this and anyone in a similar position, from your point of view how should I approach my parents and family about my bf?

Especially with the age gap what steps would you suggest?

Thank you

Xx

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (15 June 2017):

aunt honesty agony auntHonestly I wouldn't even mention his age. Just tell them you are in a relationship you would like them to meet him and take it from their, the more you build it up the more stressful it will be.

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A male reader, judgedick France +, writes (4 June 2017):

judgedick agony auntmy first thought is , Better to be an old mans darling than a young mans slave, how does this man feel about the fact that you never got him to meet with your family before now , if I was you I would phone mother and tell her that you wish to bring your bf home some day to meet the clan ,she will ash about him so that is the time to tell her the age gap I think she will be happy for you when she knows that you have being with him so long and must know him by now

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A female reader, Believe what you see Canada +, writes (4 June 2017):

Direct..

Get to the reason for conversation.

If they are behind you 100 percent they will give blessing, if not will try and change your mind

Stay strong if you truly love him

Make your own choice.

good luck

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A male reader, Denizen United Kingdom +, writes (3 June 2017):

Denizen agony auntI am surprised you waited so long to tell them. You have been with him for four years. Still better late than never. Write a letter and explain. It will give them time to absorb the information before you all meet.

Perhaps a get-together in a neutral place would be most comfortable for all.

I hope it goes well. I have to say that the most important thing for a parent is to know their child is well and happy. If this man is looking after you, it should e OK.

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