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writes:Hello,I am 22 years old and in a relationship with a guy ten years older than myself and have been for almost 4 years. My parents have never really objected to me having a partner however them and older members of the family have always told me to make sure I prioritise my education and earn my degree first before I introduce them to anyone. As i'm near the end of my undergrad and beginning a masters in October, its about time they met him. Despite coming from a very traditional African background, my parents are two of the most understanding and loving human beings (especially mum) and will welcome anyone with open arms. Now my question is mainly for the parents reading this and anyone in a similar position, from your point of view how should I approach my parents and family about my bf? Especially with the age gap what steps would you suggest? Thank you Xx Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 June 2017):
 Honestly I wouldn't even mention his age. Just tell them you are in a relationship you would like them to meet him and take it from their, the more you build it up the more stressful it will be.
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reader, judgedick  +, writes (4 June 2017):
 my first thought is , Better to be an old mans darling than a young mans slave, how does this man feel about the fact that you never got him to meet with your family before now , if I was you I would phone mother and tell her that you wish to bring your bf home some day to meet the clan ,she will ash about him so that is the time to tell her the age gap I think she will be happy for you when she knows that you have being with him so long and must know him by now
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reader, Believe what you see  +, writes (4 June 2017):
Direct..Get to the reason for conversation.If they are behind you 100 percent they will give blessing, if not will try and change your mindStay strong if you truly love himMake your own choice.good luck
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reader, Denizen +, writes (3 June 2017):
 I am surprised you waited so long to tell them. You have been with him for four years. Still better late than never. Write a letter and explain. It will give them time to absorb the information before you all meet.
Perhaps a get-together in a neutral place would be most comfortable for all.
I hope it goes well. I have to say that the most important thing for a parent is to know their child is well and happy. If this man is looking after you, it should e OK.
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