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writes:i have a cousin that has two little children with a man that's not married with yet. this man, that i consider him to be my brother in law made me several personal compliments. that looked strange to me, but considering him to be a good family man, I didn't think much of this. to come more into detail, i've been close to my cousin since childhood, but couple of years ago I had to move the city town to get a better job. meanwhile she met this guy, made children very quick one after other and now all have what they wished, i believe. to mention here that they didn't marry yet because some objective reasons. they strongly intend to marry after solving the issue.to come to subject, one day this guy made me the proposal to go out of town and spend a night together. i considered him crazy(!!!) thinking about all the risks that this immoral "relation" could involve. i have stopped discussing with him for a while (except few regards on chat) until the winter holidays came. We have visited our families on Christmas and celebrate New Year's party together. he has been very discrete all night and made me little compliments. i felt little embarrassed at his presence remembering what he has told me once. It was this recent night that I became aware of his stature, character, felt him closed while dancing ... i was saying to me "handsome man, pity his taken. otherwise he would be interesting". i returned home in the morning thinking of him and my vulnerability said its words: i am single since 2 years now (i didn't give a **** since i have a very good life great body beautiful mind :) )On 1st of Jan we had a chat conversation, he telling me how beautiful I was last night, how crazy he is about me and inviting me to a coffee. I was almost addicted, couldn't tell him no, couldn't invoice my ethical thinking. he keep telling me that this will be our secret.I met him, I kissed me, all my body trembled, went to his personal apartment, made love (great dick !!!), stood with our bodies closed linked and whispering fondlings in my ear...our secret.then i realized how convenient for him is this situation. under any circumstances i wouldn't dare to reveal this relation to my family, or even to my friends ( if you are women, you might understand the intimate reaction of your closest friend when hearing telling her this: the fear for her own lover or husband not to be taken by you). how convenient this love adventure for him, how relaxed he was about this, with little involvement from both sides (he could come visit me occasionally in the city i live in, spend crazy nights with me); my egoism could never be revealed while i will never be the first as importance (2nd , 3rd, 4th place are not counted). i have no excuse about what happened. i only know that i didn't encouraged him a single moment to continue this sequential pushing. but.. i strongly wished him in this afternoon. what do you think about this? please motivate me to continue or stop it. i was thinking to tell him in a month from now that i have a boyfriend in order to leave me alone.
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reader, Brooklyngirl  +, writes (2 January 2010):
 You say you didn't do anything to encourage it, but you did! You continued the chats, you responded to his advances and ultimately...slept with him. You are not a victim here! Your cousin is!
Why does he have personal apartment if he has a life with your cousin? Is it exclusively for his conquests?
You say they are looking towards marriage. Doesn't sound like he is, to me!
End this now! Why wait a month? It'll only get more complicated and difficult!
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