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writes: Hello,Just a quick question: how old is too old to be a virgin? I am 24 but still have not met the right man to become intimate with. I am not in a rush but I would like to know how old is too old? 25? 40? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2010): it depends on the person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2010): People are correct in saying there is no "too old", but there is definitely an age where it will become harder to achieve, and can possibly have a significant impact on your life. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying having (or not having) sex will affect your life, but one can logically assume that someone in a longer term meaningful relationship IS having sex. I'd be more worried about that fact, than the sex itself.
I'm 29... I've slept with quite a few girls, some were relationships, some were flings, some one-nighters. Point is, I met my current gf just about 2 years ago, at 27. We now live together, and have plans, to buy a house... have kids, etc. I feel like at least being in a position to MAKE those plans is something you want to achieve before 30. That doesn't mean it'd be impossible after 30, but it does become increasingly difficult to achieve.
In short, I say 30, but focus on finding someone you want to be with and could spend your life with rather than concentrating on physical sexuality. It will come with the territory, and the former is far more important and rewarding than the latter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey guys thank you so much for your responses. I see that many of you feel that it is okay to wait for the right guy and I have always felt this but at the same time, the last poster made a good point too. At the moment I do get attention from men from all age groups and I do have a wider pool of guys to choose from. So, my chances of finding someone now are much higher than in ten years time. Also, like alfTHE mouth said- I do not want to be one of those women who reach 35 or even 40 and not have had ANY sexual experiences.
Thank you guys!
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reader, alfTHEmouth  +, writes (5 April 2010):
It's really your choice and if you want to be a virgin, then fine.
However, here's something to think about: Women can attract lots of men when they're in their 20s. Men in their 20s, 30s and 40s will be all over you. For men, it's the opposite. It can be difficult in the 20s and much easier from 35 on.
It gets much harder for women after 30 and really, really hard after 40 (if you're not Jennifer Ainston). That 45 year old guy will be chasing a 30 year old women instead of you. So you're right now at an age where many, many men probably find you hot and sexy. If you stay inactive until 30 or 35, you might feel that you wasted the years when loads of men would have pursued you. I know women who look back on that and regret not having had a few sexually-fulfilling relationships when they were at the desirable age.
But it's really your choice. I just wanted to throw that out for you to think about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): You are never too old to be a virgin - if that is what you want!! - Don't listen to the anonymous lady who said 23 is "too old" and you may be "too unpopuplar to get any" - what rubbish!! - From my experience - some of the most unpopular/ugly people sleep around with absolutely ANYONE just because they ARE unpopular and are also DESPERATE so have to grab who they can!! However, if you are a bit more choosy and refined people will respect you for that and hopefully the right one will come along.
It wasn't until I was 30 when I had "full" intercourse although I had done other sexual things before then. However even at 30 looking back - I think he was the wrong bloke for me - so make sure you are ABSOLUTELY certain when it does happen!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): No such thing as to old. Women who hold out for longer than most are usually the ones that can't open up quickly, but when they do they do so entirely. Find someone who understands this and will allow you to do without fear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): I do believe there is such a thing as being too young to lose your virginity...I do not believe there is such a thing as being too old to lose your virginity. I think virginity is something to be proud of rather than ashamed of. What sense is there in losing it to just any person that you don't care enough about? Sex is most enjoyable when you engage in it with someone you love. Whether you believe it's for marriage or not, is your own personal choice/belief. It's different for everyone as well. Some people are ready at 18, while others might be ready at 28. I didn't lose mine until I was 22. my boyfriend didn't lose his until 27.
Be proud of yourself for not rushing into sex and waiting for a special someone. You're never too old. Sex will always be there...and will never change no matter what age you happen to be when you start becoming intimate!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): 23 is too old in my book. For guys and girls. But I dont live in a society where anyone treasure their virginity and most people are not religious to the degree that they withhold sex until marriage. It is quite common here to have sex as a teenager, so if you are in your 20-ties and still a virgin, here that means you dont have any moves or are too unpopular to get any. Sorry. If you are waiting for a particular reason I guess it is fine, if you are still a virgin just because no one wanted you yet thats another story...
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reader, nikkiii23 +, writes (5 April 2010):
There is never a "too old". Don't rush into things and have sex just to have sex because you will regret it. Take things slow and wait for the right guy. You can only lose your virginity once so wait for the right person to come along.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): There is no certain age. You just gotta do things at your own pace. Everyone looses there virginity at different ages. Do whats right for you and do it when your ready with the person you want to do it with. Dont worry about what other people have to say about you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): I am 21 and I recently started doing manual and oral things with my best friend but we haven't gone all the way, and I haven't with anyone because I hadn't met the right person. I often worry about being too old too, but my 3 closest girlfriends are still virgins too. DON'T worry about it, just hold out for the right guy because he IS out there. Everyone is different, you don't want to have sex just to have sex. So, overall, there is no "too" old.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): there is no age limit to virginity - may be a wee bit weird if one is a 102 year old virgin but everyone makes different life choices, what may be weird to me may be normal to you. Its what's the best time for you that counts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): i was 25 when i lost my virginity and like Illithid states, tis better to wait than "throw it away on a quickie with someone you don't love for fear of running out of time". I did that - i just threw it away fearing old virgin status without a serious boyfriend on the hozison and i regret it deeply. I'd say wait until someone special to you and some you are comfortable with to come along - there is no age limit, something i found out the hard way. Also, i have one sexual experience under my belt and one todder in tow, if you are gonna do anything sexual - be wise and wrap up unless you wanna be a stupid (yet blessed) momma like me :/
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reader, Illithid +, writes (5 April 2010):
 I'm 26 and counting and still a virgin. Heck, I was engaged to a girl, but still didn't go there (and good thing too, but that's a long story). I'm still waiting for the right person.
There is no maximum age. Just don't throw it away on a quickie with someone you don't love for fear of running out of time.
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reader, The Gentle Man  +, writes (5 April 2010):
 There is no too old.
It comes down to finding someone you feel comfortable with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): Hi, I'm 26 and a virgin- my boyfriend is 35 & a virgin- we are waiting to get married before having sex. I don't think there is an age to be too old to be a virgin. I know women in their 50's who have never found that special someone. It's nothing to be ashamed if & it's refreshing to know that people, like yourself take this seriously!
Good for you hun xx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 April 2010):
There is no too old. Better to lose it to the right person than the wrong one. Keep looking for the right guy.
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