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writes:My ex-girlfriend basically is feeling guilty for treating me so badly in our relationship. She says I've never done anything to hurt her intentionally but said she has hurt me constantly and doesn't know why she does it. She never cheated on me but she does things that would disregard my feelings. So she feels guilty about it and she said she can't be with me until she figures herself out. I asked her does she even think she wants to be with me anymore and she says she does but she knows that I could find someone better, just not her. How long does it take for someone to overcome guilt? I know my gf might have treated me bad but i realize that and i do love her I want to get past this stage and move on. Should I take a month to myself so she could get her self esteem back up? What should I do if I want to get back with her? She also told me that it would be up to me after everything is said and done if I would want her back.
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reader, Dekten  +, writes (14 April 2010):
The logical problem I see here is that SHE decides what to feel guilty about.
So she feels guilty about things that don't bother you... and doesn't feel guilty about things that DO bother you.
She may be right about you being too good for her... consider it.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (14 April 2010):
 If her behaviour hasn't bothered you then I would take her out on a date and tell her that you want her back and that you are not prepared to wait for her. Reassure her that if she oversteps the line you will let her know.
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