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writes:ill try explain fully, i met my girlfriend 2 years ago, we got on and was love at first sight we went on holiday after 3 weeks had amazing times never argue have done loads of amazing things, in 2 years we have been on 5 holidays moved in together, after one month she was telling me that i was her soulmate.Main problem is im 27 she is 23, about 6 years ago she was with a loser lad who treated her bad and got physical wi her in the end, he dragged her out of her college on her last week so she never finished her course so she went into retail, now she is assistant manager of a very good shop, she is on good money but does not like it cos her boss talks to her like shit and takes all the gratitude for all she does, so she is never been happy wi her job. we broke 4 weeks ago and moved back to our parents we were only renting she said its cos she is not happy in herself cos of her work and its not fair on me. she said towards the end she sometimes felt like we were more like best friends, although she admits we are so in love still fancys me the same as ever , never looks at other lads, so i just think that means we are total soulmates cos we feel so at ease with eachother, i love her so much.she went away 2 weeks ago wi her sister to just get away for a week spoke to me b4 she went we were moving out kissing cuddling etc it was natural aND NICE she was texting night b4 she went saying how much she loved me and it was awful feeling going away without me, told me shed miss me. i picked her up when she returned just as suprise ,she held my hand all way home saying she missed me more than she ever thought she would. we went out other day for dinner cos she wants to stay in touch but says i just cant ask her stuff or moan on at her cos she does not have answers yet, but to just give things space and time and not rush or force things, we need to take each day at a time. and only way to sort stuff properly is to give things proper time and space, no quick fix etc.so what do i do? give her some time without any contact at all? i want her to think bout us and miss us and me, what is best thing to do,? all she says is positive things for the long term i think. i have never doubted her love for me she says towards the end she never felt spark was there as much etc as she never made effort to cuddle or kiss me but other day when we were meeting etc the spark was defo there i put it down to us been inseperable for 2 years and living together etc but was all still nice. is the absence makes the heart grow fonder true? if she truelly loves me then surelly in time and space she can only miss me and us?she has said amazing things like i turned her world round and she never thought she could ever get to a happy place b4 meeting me? so help and advice please sorry for long story any more info just ask.
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reader, Mrs. Mom  +, writes (12 March 2009):
 It sounds like she's trying to solve a serious problem in her life and maybe make a major decision (like maybe going back to school?). She sounds like a great person. Definitely listen to her and don't pressure her to move in with you again. From what you said, I'm guessing that staying in regular but not too frequent contact would work well. How about taking her out on the weekend and calling her once, midweek? And then if that isn't enough for her, she can call you.
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