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*linco_88
writes:Hi to all readers, I'm 29 years old, married to a 70 year old man, and we have a son but Im falling to my driving instructor.He is 39 year old and single.Sometimes he calls me sweeheart,honey,etc during my lessons and tease me in a flirtend way.We avoid to have eye on eye contact(such feelings I have anyway).He told me a couple of times that he cannot NEVER get mad of me; NEVER!Do he feels they same way as I am towards him?How should I handle these situations? I cant take him out of my mind.
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reader, alinco_88 +, writes (16 March 2009):
alinco_88 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHiThank you so much for your answer.It helps a bit. Actually I'm having my exam end of this month.I find a bit awkward(without telling him the reason that I will change instructor) because we especially asked for him to be my instructor at the very beginning since he was also the instructor of my stepson.I think that I am in the same situation as you were; I was not attracted to him at the first place either, but I am fallen to him as the days goes by.I dont think that he will admit his fellings either, infact he is very GOD fearing and he met my husband already several times in our house when I offer him a cup of coffe during my pre-test.I feel the butterflies already in my stomach and think of him constantly,fantasizing and imagining him when Im making love with my husband. I know its not right but I can't avoid it.Does he felt the same way as I am with him?!Shall I tell him about my fellings? Im getting crazy right now... and I miss him alot and cant wait to see him tommorrow!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2009): Hi
I am in a smiliar situation. I am married and I have fallen for my driving instructor. I've been having lessons for months. I wasn't initially attracted to him but as time went on - I have become very attracted to him.
My friends told me to stop having lessons with him. I didn't listen to them. 6 months on........ I am still having lesson and now like you - I CAN'T get him out of my head.
We've openly talked about the attraction (on a few ocassions) to one another and he has said he is attracted to me. We text all the time. He is twenty years older than me and has a partner (they don't live together).
We have agreed that nothing can happen because it is wrong. His main concern is his business and reputation and he did say to me months ago 'the known as the driving instructor who slept with another mans wife'.
Despite talking about his our texts continue and are now sexually explicit. Just the other night I was out for a late lesson (I'm very close to my test having failed twice in the last two months)the eye contact, tensions and subtle touches are killing me. No sooner was I home the texting started again!
My advice to you is - change your instructor now - I am now in situation where I WISH I had listened to my friends. I have a fallen for him and I know that he likes me too - I am finding it harder and harder to control my feelings for him.
I really hope that you can see what I'm saying. I hope that you can find the strength to move. I feel so drained from constantly thinking about his man and believe it hasn't made me happy. I'm completely torn because I know if I keep going to him for lessons the more I will fall for him.
He has openly told me he doesn't want me to go to another instructor but he is finding it difficult to 'turn back the clock' in otherwords to many things have been said it's too late for that.
Please let me know how you get on - I know exactly how you feel - I was feeling the same as you a few months ago - now I am in too deep and regardless of the outcome I will and am hurting.
Good Luck
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