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writes:Honestly, I want a guy's opinion on this one! How much does a guy plan to spend on a girl on the first date? And how fancy of a place or settle for a quick bite to eat and not let her super size?!? LOL. Say you both met online (dating site) and have been talking for weeks on the phone. So far so good..now plan a first date...I know it depends on what you both like, but just think you want to get to know her and have lots of fun as well!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2009): McDonald's? I think I'd be insulted, well not if I was 16. I'd be happy at a coffee house with good music. If he pays, then it's 'more than a friend' date.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2009): the least I spent on a girl was when she paid GBP50 (i grew up in london) when I was young & poor - the most i've paid on a second date or indeed any date was $1,000 (that's after she insisted on paying $450 so total bill was $1,450) but a normal first date is between $50-150 but I'm rich and 41 when I was younger a normal amount is $50-100.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2009): on a first date the most i expect from a guy is maybe a peck on the cheek if he likes me, if its just a goodnight and he walks away then i assume he wasnt impressed.
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (6 January 2009):
ok i may be the only girl in here who pays her way on a first date. if he insists then i let him, but i don't like to feel like a guy has to pay for me on everything. guess i'm just alittle independant at times.
also i don't mind where a guy takes me on a first date, as long as it;s not Mcdonalds!lol
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (6 January 2009):
 My starting price is 50 dollars...;)
Seriously, if she likes you, she won't be too worried.....coffee is fine. xxx
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (6 January 2009):
 Well, it's been a loooooong time since I was single. But a first date? He asked me out? I'd expect somewhere between MacDonalds and a Michelin 3 star. Somewhere not too fancy, but good, maybe some interesting ethnic food? Definitely no fast food restaurants, or restaurants where you can't hear yourself think. It depends on what kind of restaurants are in town.
I would not order the most expensive item on the menu. And I would avoid spaghetti like the plague. Also broccoli and anything with little tiny black seeds, like poppy rolls.
I probably would offer to pay for a coffee or one drink afterwards if the date went well and I didn't want to say goodbye too soon.
I'd pay my own cab fare to and from, or would drive myself to and from (hence the coffee instead of an alcoholic bevvy), and pay for my own parking. This way, if things were going south, there wouldn't be a problem with awkwardness getting back home.
I would not expect a tongue in my ear or groping. I would expect a nice kiss (again, no tongue) and then a follow up phone call or text to make sure I got home safely. Holding hands from the restaurant to the coffee/dessert place would be okay if things were cordial and warm. Better would be that I get to slip my arm through the crook of his elbow and stroll along that way.
If we had some interest in common, like sports, go see an event. Going ice skating might be very amusing but might not show off your best side. Also the bruising afterwards is not fun. Taking in a movie is an oldie but doesn't really allow for conversation, does it? There's always the rather boring gallery opening, looking at art and making fun of it, then discovering you're within earshot of the artist. Hmmm. Going rockclimbing? Sledding? Skiing for the day? A nice walk in the park? It all depends on where in the country you are. Building snowmen and snow forts can be good fun. I'd probably try to find something to do that was collaborative or at least easy for the two of you to simply talk. Nothing too expensive.
Good luck, I hope it works out!
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (6 January 2009):
 I like to do things differently than "diner/movie" kind of thing and I often find things that doesn't cost much. I focus more on originality than anything else.
Last date I had, I brought her up on a big hill. I placed pillows on the ground and we spent the night just talking while watching the stars.
From my experience, originality win over money every time.
0$ on a first date for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlso, Gals how much do you expect from a guy on the first date? I'm curious on this one!
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