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anonymous
writes:how much do you have to do for someone before enoughs enough ?I've adored this guy i know for ages. I've bent over backwards to help him. He was struggling with work, and i fixed it for him. He wa slow on money and again i helped. At the beginning he seemed quite humble, but i know a friend of mine said he was cocky and she wasn't keen but would i listen ?Over time he's become arrogant, picking fault and causing rows. It's affected me because of the feelings i have. he just doesn't seem to give a damn and he's also got a bad truth issue as in he's skant with it -a lot ! In 2 days he's going to another team and doesn't even care i will be working alone. He's never even thought of what i've done for him what's made him change. i'm distraught :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2011): What's made him change? He hasn't changed he's just finally showed his true colours.
It sounds like you have feelings for this guy and did these things for him to get him to like you but it's backfired. Is this guy your boyfriend or just a work colleague?
Either way, it sounds like he used you and now he doesn't need anything from you he's dropped you. He's not a very nice person if that is the case and you need to forget about this guy.
There's nothing wrong with being generous but there's a fine line between that and being a door mat. You gave him a lot and he never gave anything back.
Buying peoples affection just doesn't work and this guy obviously couldn't care less. Let him get on with it and never ever do anything for him again.
Next time, think twice before being so readily available to help people like that.
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reader, African Violet.  +, writes (6 January 2011):
Pls my dear.Forget this guy.He is clearly with u b'cos of wat u can offer him n it seems he has already gotten wat he wanted.Just dont stress ur heart anymore b'cos of a loser.Ignore him:dat way he will realise wat he's lost.Afterall,there's a saying:there are many fishes in d river.Just search 4 another guy who really cares 4 u n ur feelings 2 lavish all dat care n love on.I wish u all d best.One love...
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