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writes:I'm wondering how much guys discuss their love life with their guy friends. I tell my girlfriends everything, who I'm going out with, whether we hooked up etc. I'm on a dating site and I was seeing this guy who I liked for about a month. We only made out and never had sex and then he just ghosted me all of a sudden. After a few months, I got over it and went back on the dating site and got matched with this really cute guy. He has a couple photos with the guy I went out with so it seems that they're good friends. I'm wondering if this other guy would tell him about me? We live a relatively small town but don't have any friends in common or anything so are my chances with this other guy completely ruined? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2019): It depends on the guy and how much he likes sharing. I would think the new guy will judge for himself; regardless of what the other guy has to say.
You tell your girlfriends everything? That's oversharing, and people store information; and not always for your benefit. You have more to be concerned about with your girlfriends than the guy you dated.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (30 January 2019):
 Does it really matter?
The first guy didn't work out, it was SOME guy you went on a date or two with over a "time span" of a month. THAT is it.
I think the fact that you didn't sleep with him might be a good advantage for YOU.
And how much guys talk to friends depends on the guy and his friends.
Same for women. I am NOT a big shared in intimate details, unless the relationship is OVER. Then I might share SPARSE comments. Nothing more.
I had many male friend who would give VERY detail descriptions (unless you told them TMI, dude) and some who never kissed and told.
If guy #2 is someone you want to get to know better DO SO without worrying about the other guy. WHO CARES what he thinks/thought of you? Now if he tells guy #2 shit about you, lies or what not.. there is NOTHING you can do.
You can't CONTROL this situation, but you CAN decide if guy #2 is someone you want to get to know or not. And if he is.. FOCUS on that... not guy #1.
If guy #2 brings up #1 (which I doubt, honestly) you can give a VERY short description, like we met through the dating site and it wasn't a good fit, or just say you don't really remember him (trust me he doesn't NEED details).
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