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writes:Hi Guys,This follows on from the last question I asked really, which was about getting a second date / level of contact / not being too needy. To put you in the picture, I went on a first date with this girl I met on a dating website. Now, I've been on a lot of first dates but they've NEVER been like this one - it was incredibly good. However since then, she's been a bit distant.Anyway, I'm pleased to say your advice worked and this amazing girl has agreed to my second date idea, so we're going out again at the end of the week.My problem is contact now. By the time I see her there will have been a gap of almost two weeks, which I don't think is ideal. I don't want her to lose interest in me in the meantime, but at the same time I don't want her to get annoyed because I'm texting etc, or come across as needy. So, my question to you is, once the second date's set up, would you get annoyed if you receive a couple of texts from the guy basically passing the time of day or saying something funny, etc (literally maybe one or two from now until Friday)? Should I just leave it now, apart from maybe a text the day before to check she's still up for meeting again?I am fully aware that this makes a fully grown professional man sound like a nervous teenager...but any help gratefully received!Thanks,J
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2011): I'd just call her a few nights before to make sure that the date is still OK. Texts with someone you hardly know are just too easily misunderstood -- there's so few letters and people read far too much into them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2011): One or two texts is definately fine, or if she initiates the texting.
Just make sure you don't drag the conversation on too long, and don't do things like texting her everynight to say good night, or do anything over the top like constantly texting to say 'I'm thinking of you/I miss you' not anything like that. But a cute, funny text would be nice.
And don't worry about her loosing interest at this stage, she has agreed to go on a second date, that seems like a postive sign!
good luck!
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (4 September 2011):
 Personally, I think it would be fine. I don't "do" texting myself - nor do any of the men I know; I prefer a phone call or e-mail - maybe one phone call between now and the next time you see her, or an email. Something light and humorous, to say you're looking forward to seeing her again.
Of course, on the other hand, getting a lot of texts, emails or phone calls would not be a good idea. Too much, too soon.
Good luck!
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