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writes:How many men at the age of 51 are able(phisically) to have sex? Does erectile disfunction strike at this age too? Masturbating doesn't count as sex.If you, a 51 year old man, could have as much sex as you wanted in a week, how many times would you be able to actually perform? Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (23 August 2011):
 I know that my step-dad has sex with my mom quite frequently, and he's around 54 I think. He likes it in the middle of the night, and several times a week if I remember correctly. How much he'd want exactly I have no idea. When he's grumpy or in his "moods" my mom complains about the lack of sex, and when he's on good terms with her she complains about how he wont let her sleep during the night (but wakes her up for sex).
Sorry if that was disturbing to you all, I've grown thick skinned to this sort of information now.
Sex in your 50'ties is quite normal, and wanted and desired by most of the population. You're not "old" when you hit 50, just look at mr. Clooney. Do you think he's stopped having sex?
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reader, BettyBoup  +, writes (23 August 2011):
 Well it's good to know that some guys out there love sex in their 40s and 50s, as well they should. My experience, as a woman, is different. I am the one with a 40 years man who would rarely have sex if I didn't want it. But I could have it every day if he was willing.
I'm finding sexuality is a very complex thing. And our reasons for wanting and not wanting sex are all very different and personal. It is also very commen it seems, that couples have mismatched sex drives.
Perhaps it is just that the couple are simply not suited in this area, or that one person is more attracted to the other. We are attracted to different people for differnt reasons. Sometimes it is very much physical attraction, sometimes it is their charm, sometimes it is their personality or sense of humour and attitude to life. Perhaps if one partner likes their other half most for sense of humour and personality and the other is mad about the physical attractiveness of their partner, person 1 will be happier to have less sex than person 2.
Or perhaps mismatched sex drives come down to how a person is affected by daily stresses. Someone who goes off sex when under stress may clash with someone who uses sex to relieve tension when faced with the same pressure.
All of these different things come into play. It is not nessasarily age which stops a man(or woman) from being physically able or mentally and emotionally willing to have sex. ED does affect men more as they get older, but thats not to say young men aren't affected by it, or that the older a man gets the less sex he wants and has. There are so many different variables I believe it is all very personal.
But for us folks who have high sex drives, we must learn to live with our less sexual partners and accept that their needs are just different(just as they must respect and accept our needs), or we must accept that perhaps a relationship with this particular person will not have as much sex as we need in our loving relationship and must decide if we are willing to sacrifice that need to continue to be with that person.
It's one of life's dilemas :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2011): I'm not sure why "Masterbating doesn't count as sex" if you are asking "How many men at the age of 51 are able (physically) to have sex?" and "how many times would you be able to actually perform?" If masturbating "doesn't count as sex", does oral sex "count as sex"? I'm 48, and my wife is 36. Obviously, I'm not 51 but I'm in the same general age range.I'm almost positive I could have sexual intercourse at least once or twice a day if I really wanted to, and if my wife were willing to. I almost always get erections within a couple minutes when I hold her at night even if I've masturbated earlier in the day. I normally think about dead kittens and other such things in an effort to keep from getting erections. But I rarely succeed in avoiding an erection unless I don't have any physical contact with her at night. I do like to just hold her at night, but it is frustrating at times not to be able to control my physical reaction. Unfortunately, her sex drive is much lower than mine and she's tired a lot, etc. so we only have sexual intercourse 2-3 times per week on average. We did it 5 days in a row recently, but she says that is too much for her. Unfortunately, she almost never wants to have intercourse twice (or more times) in a row either.My best guess is that if she were willing to have sex any time I did, we'd probably do it at least every other day, perhaps 3 out of 4 days. It's really hard to say though, because she is always the one who says "no". I can remember a few times about 10 years ago when we first met that she wanted it, and I couldn't get an erection. Ironically, this was because I thought she was so hot that I put a lot of pressure on myself to perform, which led to "stage fright", so to speak.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2011): First 51 is NOT old (OK, if your 20 it may SEEM old... but it's actually not). ED can strike a man at any stage of life, but thankfully there are multiple drugs that can return an erection of a 17 year old. What you need to consider is that 51 year old men are often married to 51 year old women who may be going through menopause. My wife (who is 51!) just went through this and for a while sex as rare (monthly). She's back to normal now, and it's a couple of times a week. Not what we were doing when we were younger, but we are both professionals with challenging careers and put in long hours during the week. Sleep is highly valued but vacation sex is GREAT! If I could have sex every night I would, but only with a willing partner who was into it.
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